My sons father and I split up and I want to change his name: Should I?

I was with my son’s father for seven years. We broke up a month ago and he hasn’t reached out in any kind of way — not a word to his son, who is four years old. In the last year of dating, he has come to visit seven times. About 12 hours’ worth of time if he’s lucky. He lives 40 minutes away and has his own car. My son is named after his father. I would like to get his name changed. He will be in school next year and id like to have it done before then. My question is, do you think changing his name is the right thing to do? I feel it will cause my son sadness being named after a guy who has very little to do with him. My son has asked him why he doesn’t come around much his father’s answer washes just been busy… my son has also told me randomly how his father doesn’t care about him. It is all very hurtful. I feel so heartbroken for my son. How would you bring up the subject to change a child’s name u had with someone? I just really need to hear how people would handle this if it was you?

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I doubt his last name bothers him. It’s what hes use to by now.

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So he has had his father’s name for four years now you ain’t together you want to change it. Your son deserves to have his father’s last name. It’s not about you it’s about what your son deserves

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I’m not sure about we’re you live. But in most places you need the father signature to do a legal name change if the child is not old enough to speak or sign for themselves. It’s a very hard situation. All the best.

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I wouldn’t change his name. He is old enough that he is knows his name and changing it may confuse him.

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Just because you’re not with his father you want to change his name???:roll_eyes:

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No. Your doing this out of anger. Leave his name.

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I believe she’s actually talking about his first name, she says she doesn’t want him to be named after someone like him which usually means they have the same name. I think we all assume it’s last name but when I reread it I really think she means the first name, and if that’s the case then no don’t change it that’s just being petty and you’re looking for excuses to change it to be spiteful.

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How about asking your sun what he wants? It’s his name and his life.

This is not to benefit your son, it’s a way of you getting back at the father. I would not change my child’s name.

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I was with he father of my first 2 kids for 7 years. We went through a terrible break up and he never sees our children aged 7 and 5(because he chooses not to) but they are a part of him and that isn’t going to change so they kept his last name.

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I would not change his name,he is still the boys father weither he chooses to be or not

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Maybe come up with a nick name he can go by. And use his other name for legal stuff only.

I think its a selfish reason and is just gonna confuse him. Names arent “dress-up” toys for our mood

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Then he’s going to have to show two birth certificates the rest of his life for anything important. Why bother ? That’s just your revenge speaking. If he seems to want it changed as an adult he can, but not by your choice. Start putting these kids first …you had no problems with the name til you split now it’s an issue ?

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No. Just because you have ill feelings toward his dad gives you no right to change his birth name. Last name isnt as big a deal as his first name. He is little & going through enough. Leave his name as is. It’s not his fault that it didn’t work out between you two. Geeeze.

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A name isnt going to change the hurt. And although I understand the anger, Ive been there, but changing a childs name after 4 yrs is just being petty. Where I live, regardless of involvement, a fathers consent is needed in a court of law to change their name.

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How is this even a question? You cannot be serious???

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I would do whatever feels best for you and your family in the long run. If hes gone and not part of the wee lads life then I dont see anything wrong with changing him name to reflect that absence

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Don’t change it legally that will confuse him. Maybe a nickname that’s similar and goes with it? Like chuck for Charles, Bobby for Robert etc.

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