My sons father passed away: How can I tell him?

I have a six-year-old son. His father and I were together for seven years but broke up when my son was 2 ½ when we broke up. Since then, he has been in and out of the picture, just in really bad shape. My son loves his dad so much and gets super excited at any chance to see him. Well, yesterday my ex was in a horrible accident and didn’t survive. I haven’t told my son yet. I was wondering if anyone has been through something similar and how did you break the news?

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How awful. I’m sorry

I’ve been through this. If you want you can PM me.
It’s hard but you can help your son through this.

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Ashley Drinkard Frey maybe you can offer some advice.

My son lost his daddy when he was about 3… Bone cancer… You have to just sit down with him and talk to him… Baby… Mommy has something really important to tell you and it’s bad news… I’m so sorry baby but, your daddy was in a car accident… And he isn’t alive anymore… If you’re religious you can tell him anything where you believe he is… If he’s ever lost a pet you can explain how that pet died, it’s like that. I’m very sorry…

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I went through this with my son. He’s also six and lost his dad in September. My son didn’t have a real relationship with his dad, he knew him, but not as his dad. So telling him that he passed, wasn’t as hard as I thought it would be. I hope someone here can offer helpful advice. Sorry about your loss

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Oh wow!!! I’m so sorry. I wish I had some advice to give you. I’m sorry you and your son are dealing with this. You and he are in my prayers.

Idk if you believe in this but maybe explain how good heaven is (in your words) and then tell him that’s where his dad is.

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I don’t have any advice for you but I didn’t want to scroll without saying I’m terribly sorry much love to you both. My son is ten and I can’t even imagine having to tell him that :pensive: good luck to you

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I don’t have any advice pertaining to telling him, but I will say whatever you do, DO NOT LIE TO HIM, And be there for him as much and humanly possible I lost mine when I was 11 and needless to say the 2 recommendations I gave you were 2 things that in my personal opinion would have helped me out a lot

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Don’t put it off any further.
Pick him up from school, take him to a private and safe place. Bring in other family. Hold him tight as you tell him.
Good luck and sorry for the loss of your little man’s daddy.
Also, arrange an appointment with a social worker/grief counselling if possible.

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https://www.facebook.com/groups/raisingwisekids/

This group can support you in finding resources to help your son in the long term :purple_heart: sorry for your loss.

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Call the school counselor for advice. I’m sorry.

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My three kids father passed away on Christmas few months ago. :confused:

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I would get him in to counseling and have them help tell him.

My girls lost their daddy to testicular cancer when they were 5 and 7. That time is kind of a blur and I panicked of ever having to face that during his battle. But when the time came, I sat on the floor and I held them and the right words came. There’s no way to plan this kind of conversation. Trust in yourself that come time to do it, you’ll know what to say. I’m thinking of you and your son :heart:

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Just be honest. There are tons of books that explain death to children, I’d ask his guidance counselor at school which one they would recommend. Good luck girl, my heart goes out to you

I would just tell him that he’s gone to heaven with all of your other family and friends that have passed away. I’m very sorry for your loss

I found books… They have a few on Amazon that were great

I am so terribly sorry for your loss. The closest I have ever come to a situation like this was when I had to tell my best friends daughter, she was 6, that her mama died(cancer). I think it’s best to be honest but explain it so he understands. The only thing you can do is console him and love him extra