My sons father passed: How can I keep his spirit alive

I have a three-year-old son, his father and I broke up two years ago & only recently we just started spending time with our son together for our boy as that’s what we wanted, but his father died very unexpectedly not long ago, the conversation has been had, but we’ve faced three deaths since Christmas, and although he’s three he has a very good idea that dad’s not coming back, I guess I’m looking for ideas for my son to keep his daddy spirit alive at home, a safe place for him to be when he wants to think of him, and I don’t know really if that makes sense? I thought about writing a short story and printing and binding it about our life together before, and lots of nice things about our son being a baby, or I don’t know maybe a little keepsake box, I don’t want a ‘shrine’ we have some pictures in a glass press with fairy lights and things but is there any other suggestions from people that have been in the same situation, we were in a relationship for a couple of years, and it’s been a huge shock. Thanks in advance. X

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Maybe ask a family member or someone for a shirt of his to make into a pillow, blanket or a teddy bear!

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I’m not sure if this Will help you but when my Father-in-law passed away. We had family and friends record their favorite memories with the grandkids. Also what ever pictures anyone had. It seemed to help

When my mom died, I took my nephew outside to talk to him about it. He was three at the time. He pointed at a star and said that must be her looking down because he never saw that star before. It then became a ritual to pick out a star when we lost a family member. When he was little he would sometimes sit on the porch by himself to talk to his grandma.

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A pillow or bear made from dads shirts. Or a blanket. We did that for my husbands entire family when their grandma passed, very special.

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Perhaps you could ask different family members to write a story about him and then turn that into a book with pictures.

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If you have an videos of his voice, good ones of course. Maybe one saying I love you, get it out into a bear. Build a bear does it :slightly_smiling_face: I have one with my dads voice telling me he loved me.

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a photo book with quotes about what they were doing in or when the pictures were taken. A memory book.

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My brother just passed this mouth, so grandma had a memory book made of all their pictures together so he can look and see him daily. Sweetest book ever. She had it made at Walgreens

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I vote for a teddy made out if dads shirt

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My grandson’s mom ( my daughter) passed away when he was 18 months old and he now knows she is in the sky and when the moon is out he talks to her it helps him and I’m so glad for that .

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Check out hooray heroes… maybe you can make him a book of stories/ adventures that’s just about him and his Dad.

https://hoorayheroes.com

Also Daddy Dolls are great and they aren’t just for military.

www.daddydolls.com

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If you have a photo of dad get it printed onto a cushion he can take to bed and cuddle up to it…my mum personally did this gave it to my little girl on her birthday, she absolutely loved it (6 years old) talked to it, slept cuddled up to it, was very beautiful thing to watch and she definitely felt comforted having her dad so close to her

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When my dad passed I was five years old . My mom always contributed him in conversations growing up like oh your father was just like that and he would have done this ect… she used to have us write letters to heaven for him. Just be very open . Try to keep him alive in your conversations and every day life .

A scrapbook and a keepsake box is a good idea. He will let you know what he likes best when he gets older. When you find a reason just talk to him abot his dad.

My older children lost their father almost a year ago and one of the best things I found was doing things with them that he liked. Once a month we have a snack day and eat things he liked. I also talked to them about how we met or take them to places he liked. When they ask we visit the gravesite. We’d split up years ago but always made sure to put them first

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Write down things before you forget. His favorite food, color, vacation spot, vegetable, book, TV show, etc. Write down your favorite memories of him and memories he shared with you of his childhood. Anything really. Then as time fades it all, you can reference it and tell his son who he was.

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Keep sake box, use one of his shirts to make a teddy bear. If u have ANY recording of his voice…take it to build a bear or someplace that can put it in a bear and dress it like daddy. Talk about him.often, answer all questions honestly. Make a photo album for your son with photos of him and his dad. Keep a photo of dad up in the house. Always remind your boy how proud daddy is of him, and how daddy will always and forever watch over him and want him to be a great person. Maybe stars together, and point out that dad is looking over him through the stars. Photo printed on a pillow of either justbdad or the two of them together. Keep the positive love and conversation alive.

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Go to shutterfly.com and make a book with pictures that you have of him and family. And him and his dad together. I made a Shutterfly book for my papa ( paternal grandfather) it’s an awesome momento!!

I make teddy bears out of people’s clothes who have passed away

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