My spouse told me he was only with me because of our daughter: Advice?

I badly need advice about my relationship. He and I have been together for so many years, so a lot has happened. Good and bad, but one of the worst things was what he said recently. We have a toddler, and he recently told me that he’s only with me for her. Also said he doesn’t want to ever marry me. He said a lot more hurtful things, but I’d rather not talk about those. I just have been wondering what to do. I still love him so much, but I can’t shake off the hurtful things he said. Especially the part where he said he’s only with me for our daughter. Now he is trying to be good and say he loves me, but I still feel weird about our relationship. As his love for me is so fake. I can’t get it out of my head, and I just don’t know what to do. I am also pregnant so that makes it harder. Help!!:frowning:
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That’s not okay. As hard as it is, sounds like you may need to move on.

Well I think you should move on, I know it can be very difficult, but if he said this right now, I’m pretty sure that in the future it may be worse…I have a difficult situation too, but I’m trying to figure out what that’s the best I can do! :heart:

He loves you as the mother of his child. He doesnt wanna be with you anymore. He made it clear. Move on and find someone that really wants to be with you and that loves you.

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Leave girl before he cheats or leaves u for someone else… he wouldnt have said that if he loved u… and sure doesn’t seem like theirs been an apology either!!!

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Leave and realize YOU deserve better! Its tax season honey man wants some stuff so he loves you :wink:

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Leave…you don’t need to be in a relationship to raise a child together…as long as you’re both adults about it

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If he’s your spouse that means your married? If not, he’s your boyfriend and a waste of space.

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Walk away and find someone who loves you. Staying with him will only make him resent you.

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Leave him. He doesn’t love you. He cares about you cause your his child’s mom.

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Throw the entire man away and move on

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Leave, you deserve better then that!

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I know it’s hard but think you already know the answer. You have to leave. You deserve someone that loves you not a fake relationship

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Do not let him back peddle on hurting you. Make him prove he loves you. But I think he is just saying what you need to hear. Loving someone doesn’t always mean they are the right partner. Think of your children and how they would feel watching unhappy parents. I lived a pretty shitty marriage for 20 years and my kids suffered. Think long and hard about what he said to you. Love doesn’t hurt like that. Good luck

When men say things like that believe them… because down the line and years later he will tell you he told you!!!

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You deserve to be with someone who wants you.
I’m sorry he hurt you. :heart:

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Believe what he is saying. Don’t try to sugarcoat it.
There is a man out there who will love you so much better than this one is. Don’t be afraid of moving on just because you’ve put so much time and energy into this relationship when it doesn’t sound like he’s put much into it.

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Believe him. Ask him to leave or have help and pack up you and the daughters thing and move out. This man is not for you.

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He told you how he felt. You tell him how this all is confusing asf and you won’t tolerate being disrespected because he can’t control his emotions. If he does it again, leave.

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Walk away.
Why be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you

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