My spouse told me he was only with me because of our daughter: Advice?

Walk away and work on improving yourself for you and for your children.
Eventually the right person will find you.

Does he know ur pregnant

I dont know I think all long relationships have ups and downs and the downs can be horrible. I struggled so much when my daughter was born and for a couple of years. I said more than once to my spouse I wasnt sure I’d be with them anymore of it wasnt for our daughter and I know that was hurtful. I wish I could take it back. I do love my spouse and like him and am so grateful to have such a wonderful husband. I cant say with everything else in your life but its definitely a choice u have to make. Sorry you’re going through this. It really is so hard.

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Say bye. Trust me you should believe him when he gets hurtful. You and your baby should not go through this. He can visit and help with money. Without respect there is no love.

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Question: did this man want marriage when yall began seeing each other?

Leave, he doesn’t feel the same way about you even if he now tries to tell you he does. You deserve better and you will never be happy if you both don’t really want to be in this relationship. And the fact that he’s said other hurtful things shows you this isn’t a good relationship.

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Leave girl. Been there. And its much better to leave, find yourself, focus on your babies, and if your ready, find someone who loves YOU and your children. Not faking it just to make it work. Trust me, you’ll be a lot happier and you won’t always second guess every word he sahs

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Don’t put up with that he needs to make up his mind

I would work to get myself out of that relationship.

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I would start saving up without him knowing and move on.

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You either stay in this relationship or live if your not happy.its really up to you to decide

Was it during a fight. People say things they don’t mean when angry. Not right to do but it happens.

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Leave, dont stay with someone who doesnt want to be with you, you deserve to be loved and happy…

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Time to move on. No reason to be in a relationship if one person isn’t for it. It takes two people for a relationship to work(the obvious…). Last thing the kids need to be around is unhappy parents.

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Id walk away personally…you shouldnt ever have to hear that if he was any man he would say he loves you…not say he with you because of your child…theres your answer…you deserve to be happy its not healthy to stay if hes like that

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Im literally in the middle of getting divorced because of the same reasons. So many hurtful things being said to me amd about me. Litterally told me many times he was only here for our 2 boys both under the age of 4… Calling me names. Telling me he doesnt love me or respect me. I fought to have him stay for SO LONG. I finally boke. Last time he said he was only here for them I told him flat out that if thats thw case he shouldnt be here at ALL and needs to leave. That was 2 weeks ago today. Hes seen our kids twice in that time amd was only when he was getting loads of his crap out. Hes only video chatted twices as well. Be strong. Know YOUR worth.

You remember you are worth it and so is your daughter!!!
If you can start to put a small fund away every week, not for holidays, for you to spend on what you want. Feel better about yourself. Every couple goes through a bad faze… Just be sure its not always a bad faze

You deserve someone who wants to be with you. Time to move on.

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Time to stand up for yourself. It’s really hard but if you don’t walk now it will only get worse. You have to stand up for yourself. If you don’t you can never expect anybody else to. You need to not only do this for you but for your children

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Please stay… as he is staying for the kids… please stay for the sake of the kids too… i pray for you…