I’ve been with my husband for eight years. My stepchild is nine years old and extremely disrespectful to me. I get anxiety at the thought of having to watch the stepchild while my husband works or leaves the house. I also have four other children, only two of the other 4 are by my husband. I absolutely get sick thinking of watching my stepchild when my husband is gone. My stepchild lives with us. Stepchild beats up younger siblings, calls me names, calls all the other children fat, dumb he calls me piece of crap , ugly, stupid. We all basically try to avoid the stepchild because I not there will be a issue. I seriously feel like I am keeping my children in a mentally and physically unsafe environment. I am considering leaving because my stepchild is really driving me insane. However, I feel like this is not a real reason to leave your marriage because I don’t want to be around this kid. I also want my kids to be able to be with their dad. But this is becoming too much for me!
Does the father of the child stop his behaviour? If not then I’d consider leaving to.
Have you talk you your husband about it?!
I stopped reading at…”watch my child”
But best of luck.
What does your husband think of his son? Sounds like the son needs to get counseling.
The husband needs to fix this…and sounds like the child could use some consequences and maybe some counseling
Sit down as a family and address the issues.
Step up and show him who is the boss. That’s your house. Not his. Punish him like you would the others. Don’t back down to a child.
I chose my children over a brat like that I was gonna have to deal with …he was fully capable of behaving …10…listen…you can go either way with this… but I would choose your children’s safety and mental and physical well-being before anyone…even your husband if hes not gonna do anything about it
Sounds like a messed up kid that needs serious help
Get the husband and stepchildren to some counseling asap… sounds like there’s an problem that the child can’t deal with and is taking it out on the rest of the family … where is his bio mum, was there problems there ???
This child needs discipline and consequences for his actions. It won’t only be your household being affected if it doesn’t get addressed now. He will be doing this to others.
He shouldn’t be letting his child disrespect an adult like that much less his step mother… nor bully the siblings to that extent… smh this is his responsibility to address , and your only job is to show that child the love it needs
Leave … I did…and glad I did…I try and work things out but theres only so much your children should have to be in that mess…leave and be a happy single mom…I did
You accepted that child as part of you when you took your vows. You don’t “watch” your children.
Maybe you need to have a talk with your husband, because that child is going nowhere. Especially if your husband has custody and he lives with you
This needs to be tackled head on with both of you on the same page. If there’s a difference between the parenting the child will find the cracks. If you feel uneasy with him odds are he feels the same. I’d try something different to try connect with them on a deeper level…after all you’re the adult.
Bust his ass and be consistent. I have a step son who’s just like this… once I started to pull no punches, he has stopped and is now one of my best kids. Separate him from the pack, give him consequences to his actions, more chores, and don’t give up. I lived up to the wicked witch of the west until he started showing me respect. Now we have a great relationship.
Psa:: I treat him just like I do my own children, so before anyone starts running their mouths about how they hope their children never have me as a step mother… I do not treat my children any different.
Counseling for child and family also serious discussion with your spouse
There has got to be consequences for the bad behavior (age appointment) with your husband backing you up. My husband and I blended our children which made a total of 8 and we back each other in front of the children…if something was done wrong its addressed with kids hearing and seeing. Also it sounds like family counseling as well as individual for son would help.
You can still be with your husband without living with him. I feel this is unsafe & harmful for you & your children. Does your husband discipline the child?