My step-daughter expressed she feels uncomfortable with her bio mom: Advice?

I’m a stepmom to a beautiful 10-year-old girl. Aside from the issues her mom and my husband had, we always thought she was a good mother. That’s is until recently. When she came and confided in my husband and myself that she could no longer take what was going on with her mom and how she on certain occasions had been aggressive towards her, she witnessed abuse toward stepdad from her mom and basically witnessing her mom get wasted and all kinds of crazy on top of that she would see what she was doing while out through social media. We spoke with our stepdaughter about what she wanted and decided she would give her mom another chance. When we saw her again, she came back with her mindset on wanting to stay with us; she said she no longer feels safe with her mother. We got a lawyer and filed for custody. The problem now is that she doesn’t want to go back to her mom, and we thought we had made it passed, but it’s best we return her so she can go to school while the whole issue is sorted out in court. The problem is she does not want to go back; she’s crying and crying that she doesn’t want to be returned to her mother. We filed a police report, which concluded she was better off with us as well as a cps report. Has anyone been in a similar situation? If so, how did y’all go about it? It breaks our hearts to see her torn about having to go back. We are located in Texas, if that helps any.

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If y’all have a lawyer already, talk to him/her about filing for emergency custody, or if that’s an option. I’m in MS so the laws may be different.

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That’s so sad…I dont know much else you can do other than be there for her and be a safe place for her…praying everything gets better you guys are doing a good job❤

I would talk to her principal and see if she can still attend school but under your care. If you have police records and cps go ahead it shouldnt be that difficult. Always can request to have her work sent home until its sorted out. You need to talk to your lawyer and someone at the board of education and see the proper steps. I wouldnt send her back to her mom if I could help it.

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You need an emergency custody order

Talk with the school, if u have a lawyer already they should have filed for emergency custody

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I wouldn’t send her back …

I agree with Brandi N Bryan McQueen talk to your lawyer about filing an emergency temporary custody order.

There is a law that if CPS, homeless, is involved the child gets removed out the child has a choice to go to any school.

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Listen to the kid and try to keep her safe.

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Your doing right, but get her in counseling asap. Get emergency custody while everything is sorted out .

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Try to file for emergency custody. If there is a custody order in place in favor of bio mom stepdaughter has to go back until court order says otherwise.
It sucks but it will be In very bad interest of yours and hubbys to go against a court order

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I would take her to school with your husband with you and talk to the principle about what is going on and if there is someway to stop the birth mum from seeing/picking her up from the school. I would also set up counselling to try and get to the bottom of what’s going on. Also see a lawyer about moving her to a different school where her mum won’t know what school she is going too.

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Get looking at schools nearby

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get in to a judge for emergency custody… since you have filed a report and the child is 10 and can speak that she doesnt want to go backcause cause of abuse judge will grant you emergency custody… take her to school in the meantime… if any work or other obligations can’t be set a side for this well fuck them and do what’s best for her right now is my opinion

Why does she have to go back?
Change schools.

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Ask your lawyer to ask the judge for an expedite order

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If she is crying and that desperate to stay then you need pay attention to that. Get emergency custody. That child is holding something in. There is a reason it disturbs her this much.

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Can you or a friend of hers drive her to school then one of you pick her up?

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not from personal experience but I have a friend that went through a very similar situation(less than a yr ago) in Missouri, and they took the child to DHS and let her talk to a worker about why she doesn’t want to go back and what had been going on in the other home. DHS was able to do some type of temporary custody for the child to stay where she felt safe until the courts handled it. The other parent now has full custody and the child is in counseling and thriving.Good Luck to you on this journey.

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have your attorney file for temporary emergency custody. that way you’re not in contempt of any custody already in place

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