Back story first lol, try not to make it too long x Me and my partner have been together five years, I have three kids from previous relationship and one with my partner and my partner also has a child from a previous relationship, his child comes to us every weekend and most of the holidays, and as soon as he steps through the door it’s a war zone he starts on my kids hitting them swearing at them and just being really mean I caught him one day pinning my then two-year-old down and holding a blanket over her face so she couldn’t breath, he punches my oldest in the side of the head constantly, and my other son who is same age just stays away from him, his dad does nothing to punish his behavior, and when we argue about it he just says what can I do he is my son, at the end of the day I feel I have to think about my own children now and not his he doesn’t work, but I have to pay to keep a car on the road to make sure he can get his son every weekend, but if one of my kids ask for a lift it’s “I’m not a fkn taxi” so then that’s more arguing because if I didn’t pay for his car my kids wouldn’t miss out on days out and stuff and I feel bad for them not getting that sort of stuff when his son gets spoiled rotten off his mother and taken on 4/5 holidays a year and we can’t afford one, I probably sound like a spoiled kid myself at the min but I have tried for nearly five years with this kid he is fine when it’s just us, and his dad is out, but as soon as he walks in the door he turns into a nightmare Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Have the dad take the boy and spend one on one time with him outside of everyone else. Its probably a jealousy and attention problem. He ahould be punished as well for hitting and being mean to the other children. Have dad talk with him about it all.
My advice would be to leave his lazy ass! Seriously put your kids and yourself first… You would be able to afford those holidays if you weren’t supporting his ass.
Dad needs to step up and act like a dad.
Lol leave him… WHat aM I SuppOSe tO Do HE is My SoN he’s your son do something about it not saying you said that he did! He’s dumb!
You need to leave. His son is abusing your kids and he is letting it happen. You are letting it happen over and over because you keep listening to your partners bullshit excuses. If he doesnt start doing something, you are at a danger of losing your kids to cps if this keeps going on. Really, “my stepson tried to suffocate my 2 year old, what can i do??”
Tell them both next time he hits one of your kids you will call the cops on him for assault. That’s never okay! It’s your job to protect your kids. Sounds like it’s time to do that either by getting the kids in trouble with the law or leaving the situation all together.
You’re being taken advantage of and your kids are in danger. Get them out of there or put him out. You’re enabling him to enable his son to be that way if you do not. I have been through this. Get the baby out now before they remember this horrible behavior. The child needs help. Call CPS and or the police.
He’s is mad that his dad is parenting other kids like he wants him to parent him. So he takes it out on your kids who he feels stole his parent. He wants a relationship and attention from your husband.
The first time that child assulted my kid would have bern the last time he set foot in my house. Get your kids and yourself out of that environment, it sounds like you do it all anyway, time to loose the dead weight.
Your kids are being abused. You need to keep them safe. If cpswas involved they would make you creates plan that keeps that child separate from yours. He needs medical help asap but your kids need to be safe while he’s getting that help.
Sounds like his dad is a tool too. And he is treating you how the dad treats you. Your husband should be talking to his son about his behavior.
You don’t sound spoiled you sound tired of excuses. It’s completely unacceptable for his child to hurt anyone and he needs to teach him. His lack of concern should worry you as they get older and you are right your kids are missing out!! They need a mom who is happy and to be happy and feel loved and equal. If he can’t do that then let go now girl and live the life your dreaming of in your head! It’s up to you to make the first move but I promise if he can’t do anything to fix this you will all continue to suffer if you don’t leave.
I wouldn’t pay on his car till he does something with his child. If he’s letting his kid treat yours like that then he obviously doesn’t care bout your kids. You have to put your foot down. Not just argue. But if that child doesn’t start treating yours right I would not let him come back over. Or not be there while he’s there. That’s ridiculous.depending on how old he is I would call the police and file an assault charge next time he touched one of my children. Especially since the dad does nothing
Nope time to leave that mess. He wont even work but also wont give your children rides in a car you pay for? Nope. Nope. Nope.
Also it’s been 5 years, that’s enough time for the older get to get over the jealous. He has no right to hurt your kids. He has no right to hurt ANYONE.
Sounds to me like the boy is acting out because he wants attention from his dad
I would recommend a counselor for the stepson and father before someone gets hurt. You will be liable for any injuries received at his hands since you are clearly expressing your witness to the abuse of your other children. This isn’t a joke and it will affect everyone in your household long term if you don’t get a handle on it.
If he doesn’t work he sure as heck would not have a car to drive. That kid needs serious counseling. He could have killed your baby. Take your kids and go somewhere safe and let him figure out his psychopath kid on his own
When a child is in my house, they follow my rules. They get disciplined and have consequences for misbehaving. If Dad won’t do anything, discipline his ass too by making him get out. Keep your car.
No offense but get your head out of your ass. Your children are in danger. Do something.
Fight him one good time. Let him know. You not putting anyone life at risk in this house. Have a full on fight and drag his butt.