My toddler has started biting kids at daycare: Advice?

My son is 15 months old and has started biting other kids at daycare. At home, I have tried spanking, biting back (not hard enough to do damage but enough for him to get “hey this hurts”), telling him “NO,” but nothing works. It’s becoming a problem, and I’m not sure what to do. Can anyone help??

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I’ve learned that showing them something is possible only shows them it’s possible. That includes hitting, slapping etc. My mom thought it would be cute to bite my son, after that I was doomed. He wasn’t biting for long but still it was dangerous. All I could do was lecture him about it that it hurts and leaves marks and how much it would hurt me if another little baby had bitten him and how he would have to be kept away from other children. Eventually he stopped I think because he loves being around other kids and he didn’t want to lose that, kids need to be taught the chain reaction to their consequences, I think. He was the same age as yours at the time.

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My son went through that phase. He grew out if it quickly. The more I acknowledged it the more he did it.

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My sister did that as a child, too. My mom tried everything. She eventually bit my mom so hard she left a big bruise for a few weeks. My mom immediately snatched her up and bit the shit out of her. Needless to say my sister never bit anyone again. (My mom was not abusive, she tried several alternatives for months! Sometimes you just gotta get to the end point.)

Flick aka thump (middle finger and thumb used against eachother creates this motion) him in the mouth. Hot sauce…

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Teeth Are Not for Biting (Board Book) (Best Behavior Series) https://smile.amazon.com/dp/1575421283/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_HCpLFbR2Y237D

This worked for us

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Teething! I still gave my son frozen teething toys as much as possible until he was around that age. I don’t like giving medicine unless necessary, but maybe try tylonol before he goes to daycare to ease the pain and tenderness.

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So im an old mama and i did the bite thing but obviously you have tried it and its not working. So everyone has a currency so just find out what his currency. What i mean ny currency is something they dont want to give up .

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Okay first of all biting the child back majes it a game. It’s showing a child that Mommy can do it but the baby can’t. spanking a child that young they really don’t understand why they’re being spanked if you know what I mean. That’s why they have time out. That’s why you take their favorite toy something like that… you have to remember kids are going to go through all kinds of phases and stages through their life hitting and biting is a baby thing you have to teach them that it is wrong for them to understand it if you’re biting them or hitting them back all you’re doing is showing them it’s okay it’s a game. The more you in college it the more the child will do it.

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Time out , favourite toy taken away
Stop playing and do time out by explaining why to them

They understand a lot more then you realise

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My daughter went through this phase. She is almost 2 now. She’d bite when she got frustrated with someone or something. What really got her attention was showing her emotion when she did it. If she bit me, I would “cry” and say it hurt mommy and she would kiss it. Smacking her or biting her doesn’t teach her to not do it. To her young mind, if I can smack and bite… so can she.
If nothing is working, I would try to ignore. By saying this, I mean removing him from whatever situation that caused the behavior so he’s not harming anyone, but do not address the behavior. Sometimes children do things just because they want a reaction out of it. If you do not react, it will soon get old to them.

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I don’t understand what kind of kids yall are raising when you say that you spanking them or whatever teaches them that it’s ok to hit…

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Please don’t hurt the child for hurting children. :woman_facepalming:

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Yall needed to learn the second they did it reprimand and say its not ok. Their minds are sponges. They see the learn they do. You tell them no etc they learn. Simolple. They do as they see look at your relationships. Period.

Not reacting was what worked for my boy, he only did it a couple times, not reacting and calmly saying ouch that hurt mummy, and if he did it again I said the same, but this time moved away.

As a toddler teacher redirection and reminder that teeth are not for biting work best for us. It is also developmentally appropriate for them to bite at that age it’s a phase that can be fixed if on top of it

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Biting is unfortunately common at this age, especially when little guys aren’t able to communicate their needs through words or gestures. A great book is Teeth Are Not For Biting, by Elizabeth Verdick and Marieka Heinlen, can be bought on Amazon for less than $10. If your kiddo is not using many words to communicate, consider an early intervention evaluation, which can help with language and behavior concerns. There are a lot of reasons little guys bite, and a lot of ways to help them.

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In daycares, that’s usually learned behavior, many times having been bitten themselves. Their situation at home usually isn’t the same, whereas at daycares they have more than one baby wanting the same toy, ball, etc. so biting is their defense mechanism. Unfortunately it’s something they may need to eventually outgrow…or it gets better as they move up in age group and the kids around them start having other interests.

Rather than biting the child back, one thing that sometimes works is putting your hand in front of the biter’s mouth when they are ready to strike. Not sure if it’s the startle effect or what but that hand stops them. May not work for all kids but worth a try. To clarify you are not covering their mouth, not stopping them from getting air, just putting something between the target and them.

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He needs a teething ring or toy