Needing advice about my toddlers sleep habits

I need opinions about my soon to be 18 months oldest sleep habits! At night she’s a great sleeper, usually goes to bed around 7 pm, and gets up between 5-6 am, and it works for us. Naps can be hit or miss, but at daycare, she always gets 1-2 hour naps, and at home, it’s between 30 minutes - 2 hours. Here’s the thing: we still rock her to sleep. She usually passes out within 10 minutes or so, and then we lay her down in her crib, and we’re all good. We do it for naps and bedtime. It’s not usually an issue getting her to fall or stay asleep, but I’m worried about having another baby and her need to fall asleep independently. The few times we’ve tried to put her in her crib when she’s sleepy but still awake, she screams like a banshee, of course, and we end up after a long night back at rocking. We are planning on trying to get pregnant in the next six months, and I know she has to learn eventually, especially before she gets a big girl bed. What do yall think? Should we start eliminating the rocking, or will she just grow out of it? When should we stop rocking her to sleep?

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Why stop rocking her. Enjoy it while u can. Do u have to rock her for hours? 30 to 45 min is not unreasonable.

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Time to self sooth. Its extremely hard but one of the best things I did. My son has been sleeping through the night since he was 5 months (when I started self soothing). My best friend actually made me do it. Locked me out of my house and he went to sleep in 15 minutes. Best gift anyone could have given me.

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Most daycares won’t rock children to bed. Its gonna take tine but youre gonna just have to put the baby down and walk away

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rock her as long as she needs or wants it–they are babies for such a short time and soon they won’t want you. When you get pregnant start having only your husband/partner rock her so she can get used to you not doing so since you will be busy with the new baby.

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My 4 year old still needs someone to sleep with him. Idk how to break the habit either.

The amount of growth in the next 15 months or so before you get pregnant and deliver will help your daughter to grow up. Enjoy this time with her and maybe she’ll enjoy getting to rock the new baby to sleep.

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Try weaning her slowly. Start by rocking her but right before she fully asleep lay her in her crib and pat her the rest of the way to sleep, then once that seem to be working move to rocking her for a shorter amount of time, maybe just to settle for bedtime then put her in her crib but again pat her, that way she still has the comfort of you. Then move to patting her till she’s mostly asleep but leave before she all the way, and just continue to slowly move towards her putting herself to sleep. It sounds like you’re not in a huge rush and this way gives you both plenty of time for a gradual adjustment

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Enjoy it now before you’re pregnant and have a newborn too, but also make it seem like it’s her choice to stop. Let her feel like you’re giving her the independence to go to bed on her terms and she’ll do much better. We let my son think it was more “his idea” kinda thing and he did so much better!! Definitely enjoy it while you can tho! It’s gone before you know it!

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I rocked my daughter to sleep the first whole year of her life and she one day decided she didn’t want to be rocked anymore :woman_shrugging:t3: it was bittersweet for me.
I say keep rocking her until she doesn’t want to be rocked anymore! They are only little once. Plus it’s not like you are rocking her for hours, 10 minutes is pretty fast so I again say keep doing what you are doing :slightly_smiling_face:

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rock her until she quits herself she may need that time more than you will ever know

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Mine grew out of it give it a few more months and she won’t let you rock her or hold her like that anymore

Awe they’re only little once momma we have 3 close in age 18 months and 16 months I usually rock our 9 month old and my husband will snuggle our 2 year old a lot of times I’ll have all 3 in the recliner :rofl: our 9 month old goes to bed when she’s still awake I just rock her with her bedtime bottle. She goes to bed with a lamb that makes nature noises attached to her crib. Our 2 yr old has a light up hippo that plays music and has stars projected onto the ceiling. Our 3 yr old son can sleep in the dark or with a TV he doesn’t care lol

3 months ago my now 14 month old only would fall asleep in someone’s arms and would not sleep in her crib. A month ago she’d only lay in her crib when I rocked her first. Now sometimes when I try to rock her she just sits up and won’t let me rock her. By the time you birth your next baby I bet she’ll be able to lay down by herself. Enjoy the rocking now :smiling_face_with_three_hearts:

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SELF SOOTHE.
ITS CALLED CRY IT OUT! Lil boy has been sleeping alone since 3m, started letting him self soothe at 6. Most nights he goes to bed no problem. We still have nights where he will cry it out but it’s usually not that long either.
Put her to bed, let her cry. Check in 15. Few words, straight to the point, kisses and hugs and walk back out. Repeat until they fall asleep.
It’s hard at first but it gets easier in a few days.

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Self soothing is horrible advice. They are only little once enjoy you time with her. When she’s ready she will fall asleep. Forcing sleep is only going to upset her more. Keep doing what your doing :sparkling_heart:

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We still rock my 18 month old to sleep every single night and while some nights when things need done it can be a pain, we know she will only be this small once. Enjoy the time with them :heartbeat:

It’s not quite the same but my six year old daughter (middle child) would never sleep in her own bed for the longest time until I gave birth to her little sister this September. A couple weeks after her baby sister was born the six year old just abruptly stopped sleeping in our bed. It’s been really more of a hard adjustment for me. We wished for nearly three years she’d just sleep in her own bed, now she does and it’s hard for me. I’d say enjoy the baby-isms while you can. They won’t be this small forever :cry:

She can do it! It’s not going to be easy or fun by any means. It’s just like cutting the pacifier or the bottle. Consistency is key in these things. Start now and take it slow. Create a new bed time routine. Something big girl friendly and fun! Like book reading instead of rocking because you can still snuggle her. But, she is still little and one day you’ll rock her for the last time and you won’t even know it! Especially if you are wanting to expand your family. Enjoy these moments the best you can! What ever you choose to do will be the best decision and you will master it in time. You are doing great, mama! Keep going! :muscle:

Keep rocking! My son just changed 2 and I have always rocked/breastfed him to sleep. He has now demanded he wants to fall asleep on his own for the most part (me still in bed with him but not holding). This is all new for me but it is definitely bitttersweet that he doesn’t want me to coddle him to sleep anymore :grinning: