Needing advice on how to leave my childs father?

I’m just curious how mamas with two small children found the courage to leave? My kids are 3 and 1, and their dad is a complete asshole. I forgave him for cheating on me while I was pregnant with our youngest and regret it every day. Just as an example of his behavior yesterday, he called me lazy and accused me of cheating on him because I didn’t go grocery shopping. Anyways, I’m terrified to leave because I have no familial support here, but I want out. I don’t want my kids thinking this is normal or acceptable behavior. Thanks, mamas.

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What about moving back to where you have support?

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Just do it if you want to go

Leave…do it by yourself… you don’t need him.

Move to where your family is. I was 22yrs old and mom of 3 when i left my 1st husband. I packed up what i could and moved 2 towns over.

I left my ex-husband when my kids were 3 and 1. Best thing I ever did. You would be surprised how many other single moms out there need support too and you can lean on them. Join a moms group, reach out to any family you can, look into state programs for help with daycare and school. You got this mama

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Go back to where the family support is. You can’t live like that

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You can do it momma. I have no family and im a single mom of 3. I have an apartment and a job and we are surviving. Its jard but your not helpless. Use state programs to help.

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Check with a lawyer first. If you take the kids he could file in your city and get custody some state have a mileage limit.

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Is there a women’s shelter near u that u can go to or a friend…Where do u live

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Leave, everything else will fall into place. If being treated like that is the norm in your household, you don’t need loved ones support. You will feel the weight lifted off of your shoulders and it will be more than enough

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Move back where you have support.

Don’t say anything to him about it just go

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If I did it with 6 kids under the age of 10, with ZERO family and ZERO friends bc of the control, YOU CAN do it. One day you will realize you had enough, and you’ll just walk without second thoughts. First chance you get to walk, you go and NEVER turn back.

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U should have a local woman’s domestic violence shelter call and ask for help. The sheriff’s office shoyld have their number.

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Legal separation…will remove him because of the kids, verbal abuse, kids witnessing everything…u cannot bring up what you forgave,

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You need to get you ducks in a row first. As in child support, a place to rent, how much you can afford, you’ll have to work, so child care subsidy look into. Idk where your from but in Canada there is lots of support groups.
If you set your mind to it, and start making a list of everything you need and putting your time into it, it’s alot easier then you think.

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You ask your family to send you grayhound tickets, get all the important papers with you and get on the bus.

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When they accuse you, theyre always guilty

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You can do it! I did it when I had 3 kids…once you’re out, there’s no turning back. As long as you have your kids with you, you’ll make it through.

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