Needing advice on my current situation

I’ve had sole custody of my ex son for almost 16 months out of his 2 & a half years. I’ve been his stepmom since he was a month old. Long story short, my ex & I split over a year ago due to his drug use. I am not my son’s biological mother. She is an addict, as well. Both my ex and my son’s bio mom feel they can pop in & out of his life whenever they feel like it. In August, my son’s sisters came to live with us as well. The girls & my son share a Mom but different fathers. Their mom has no idea the girls are even here. She thinks they’re living with their Dad. He couldn’t financially take care of them. I am trying my best to keep them all in a happy, safe home. Fo, I keep allowing their biological parents to keep popping in & out when it pleases them or do I set boundaries. The girls are teenagers & are in counseling for a good reason. All their mom does is hurt them when she does call. All my ex does is play games trying to use my son to get to me. None of their biological parents offer any kind of financial support either. My husband and I are raising six kids. Any & all advice or words of encouragement are greatly appreciated. Thank y’all.

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I would set boundaries them popping in and out can really mess the kids up no matter how old they are

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I would look over your custody agreement and contact a lawyer to get some advice on what you can do. Kudos to you though, sounds like you’re a pretty great mom!

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I don’t have advice at all but I think you are an amazing human and I’m going to pray that this gets easier for you. But yes, I feel boundaries are absolutely necessary. My ex is an on going recovering addict and there are boundaries as he doesn’t have custody either. Good luck :heart:

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You are their legal guardian you set your rules. Hats off for taking care of them and giving them a safe stable place to live

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See if you could adopt them .if you think that would be best❤ you are an amazing person and Bless you for what you are doing for the kids…sometimes the best thing is to completely cut off toxic people even if they are " parents "

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First off, you’re amazing! Thank you for giving them a loving home.

Secondly- set boundaries. I wouldn’t allow them to keep coming in and out of their lives

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You’re an amazing human being. You set the boundaries so that the children aren’t confused

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Thank you for taking care of these kids and being a positive influence in their life…Set boundaries for a visit like a custody agreement.

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have an order put in place of set times and things to follow such as drug addiction classes and what else is needed. They should have right to see thier children. To one day hope they can change thier life and get thier son.

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First off you are an amazing person for doing this!! Those babies will love you forever. Ugh you deserve the world. As for them popping in and out… I’d find a way to stop it. Those kids don’t need that type of thing going on

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the world needs more people like you!:heart:

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Tell the your oldest daughter’s they do not have to speak to their mother if they do not want to . As for your son set up a day a week they can visit with them all so God bless you , your husband and family

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I would set boundaries but that’s me. The kids need a drama free life. weather not it’s right or wrong they need those people out of their life’s for a while to regroup and Focus. Time does wonders.

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You’re an amazing person, but you do need to set boundaries it’s unhealthy for the kids that their bio parents are popping in and out and on drugs set up a supervised visitation schedule. Sounds like you’re the best thing that happened to the babies

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I do not allow my boys bio dad to come and go as he pleases. He can stay sober and consistent or stay away completely. Ny kids hearts will not be broken over and over because its convenient for him.

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I would set boundaries, I would let the teens have some input on those boundaries

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I hope you treat them as if they were your babies. So many stories of playing favorites, or having a favorite. God bless you if these are your true kids and you love them. Set boundaries and get it in the court system.

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You deserve a medal.

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