Needing advice on potty training boys

Hello, I need advice! My son is three years old, going onto four soon! We have been trying to potty train since he was two years old with no success! I noticed he hold it in as much as he can until night time when I put on a diaper. I have tried everything in the book. I honestly don’t know what to do at this point to teach him how to use the potty. Any suggestions?


Throw cheerios in the potty and have him “sink” them. Good luck!

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With my boys it took 3 days of them running around naked then 3-4 days of just underwear and then clothes after that. They still had accidents the first couple weeks. My youngest holds it til the last possible second then runs to the potty.

Potty training boot camp works great. Also BRIBERY. Bribe that child with an M&M or fruit snack or whatever every time they potty (big prizes for poo!). It’s not forever, so it’s not gonna kill them. Also, we had our son pick out cool new undies that he got to wear after he was able to go all day without an accident AND a brand new cool toy that sat just out of his reach until he was able to go all day without an accident.

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Diapers and pull-ups only enable the mentality that its ok to potty in your pants , definitely go without either


Underwear. Put him in underwear and take him to the potty every hour or half hour. After a few accidents, he should get sick of having to change clothes and start to let you know he has to use the potty. Worked for my two boys anyway. Good luck!

My son is 3 turning 4 in October. We finally got him to go pee all by himself and let us know when we are out (close to home) when he has to use the bathroom. We still do pull-ups at night because he is a heavy sleeper. As far as going poop, he waits for us to put a pull-up on or goes in the floor in the bathroom then runs to tell us he has to poop :woman_facepalming:t2: still working on that one.

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Mom of 3 boys… just put him in underwear and take away the option of a pull-up through the day. After he realizes he doesn’t like feeling wet and cold he will pee in the toilet. It will take about 3 solid days. I would absolutely keep him in a pull up at night though.

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I just let my boy go without diapers for a few days and kept asking if he needed to pee or poo and now he tells me when he needs to go. He’s 2 will be 3 next month.Some days were frustrating though but it got better.


Stop training!!! I know it sounds counterproductive. Some kids (& adults) don’t respond to pressure. He knows what to do. Take the pressure off. When he does go reward him with a sticker (outdated calendars are good for this.) Each time he gets 5-7 stickers he gets a bigger reward. When he gets a larger amount (for us when we filled the calendar so 35) he gets a bigger reward. Don’t do anything about accidents. I found with my younger 2 the more people said they should be potty trained or bugged them about going they fought it. Once the pressure was off it just clicked.

You can also get white undies. Let him draw on it with WASHABLE markers. Praise him like crazy for the beautiful picture. Take pictures of his art work etc. Then he wears the undies. When he pees in them say something like “that’s too bad. You’re picture is ruined.” That might make him be more conscious & keep them dry so the picture stays nice. When he’s done wearing them soak in cold water before washing.


I tried target practice with Cheerios in the toilet, put a little bit of dish soap in the toilet it makes bubbles. My mom tried a gum ball machine with my brother he got a penny every time he peed in the toilet. My cousin was visiting ( many years ago) and ate all the gum all’s. We had one child who like fake tattoos on his arms as a reward for being good.

We got my son a frog urinal that hung on the wall. So much easier!! Then it also teaches him to stand up while using the bathroom there is a thing in it that spins when they pee on it. My son thought it was great

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Ditch the diapers and pull ups and move to regular underwear. Boys tend to take longer to potty train as well.

I bribe mine with his favourite haribo jelly. He was potty train in no time :wink::sunglasses:

I had the same problem with my son… he was four before I got him potty trained…I bought this book called Toilet Time: A Training Kit for Boys (Ready to Go!) It’s on amazon and comes with two posters that match the kids posters in the story and you can choose between a boy and girl in the story. I read this book to at least once a day and pointed out all the similarities between him and the boy in the story. It took me about three days of me taking him to the bathroom every hour at first and then every two hours and so on until he was able to do it on his own we still had a few accidents at first but slowly those went away. This kit is a life saver I really though I would never get him potty trained…

With my son it was a control issue. He wanted to have something he was in control of. He didn’t understand that, neither did we, but like it was said in a earlier response “once the pressure was off” he was in control and nature took its course. There were accidents, but I didn’t fuss about them, just had him help with cleaning up the “mess”. That was the biggest help, because he had to stop what he was doing.

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Toss the pull ups at night…just be patient he’ll get it !!

I would stop the potty training. He may not be responding to the pressure.

Has anybody tried putting underwear on and then putting a pull up over the underwear would that work

No diaper or pants… Au natural… Put fruit loops or cheerios in the toilet for aiming practice…
Mini choc chip for rewards… Good luck!

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