Needing pros and cons about Santa

So, moms, I know this will be a lot of opinions, but I’m conflicted about Santa. My son is three, so this is his first year really understanding and getting into Christmas. I never really thought about Santa much. I mean, I grew up with it and have always done it for my nephews, but this year something has changed. Part of me feels like I shouldn’t do the Santa part of things for my son. It seems too much like I’m just lying to him to motivate him to be good when 1. I don’t bride him to be good ever it’s expected and 2. I am very blunt and honest with him. I’ve always been the type to speak to him as an adult and not sugar coat things or make it sunshine and rainbows. For example, I don’t say something like, “oh baby step out and let mommy put on clothes” I explain things out that you need privacy when naked and that there are parts of your body you do not show or allow others to see. I’m big on explaining instead of just this is what I say. Anyway, that got far from the topic, but when thinking about Santa if I decide to go without I do know that it can be skipped this year unnoticed and probably next year, we would have to have the discussion that some do believe and that it would hurt people to tell them differently because you believe differently. Same as a Jewish mother would explain to her children. I want to really think about all the pros and cons before going ahead with anything because honestly, I don’t know if this something I’m only feeling because this year I’m not in the holiday spirit after losing my father this year or if it’s something I just proceed with. Please let me know any pros and cons that you can think of for me to consider.

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He’s 3…let him be a child like you were allowed to be.

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Let him believe. Let him be a child.

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Wait whatttt
I’m really confused… you want to tell you 3 year old Santa doesn’t exist or you dont want to do xmas this year… :sleepy::sleepy: either way I feel real sad

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It’s not just about Santa but the magic of Christmas. Let him believe because as they get older it only gets better!

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We dont do Santa at my house, but we still make christmas a big deal🤷‍♀️

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Let him believe if its expected he is good why would Santa change that ?

I never believed in santa. My niece did. It broke her heart when she found out santa wasn’t real. I don’t see the point in putting a child through that

Let your child be a child! You dont need to treat your child as an adult. Let him believe in santa just like you got too.

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It stinks your not in the holiday spirit, but I wouldn’t punish my kid for it. Let him enjoy it

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Hes a baby let him be a kid…trust once he goes to school he will be different and want to believe his friends…your sad for your dad and I’m sorry but that dont mean he has to go without because you want to be honest…you can always still be honest with him but let him enjoy his childhood…your parents let you so dont take from him…as he gets older he’ll know the truth its not bad

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I saw today where a lady explained that she still does the Santa thing because “why not make Christmas magical” :woman_shrugging: you can make it your own, make it fun and enjoy the memories. It’ll be something he can look back and enjoy and pass those traditions YOU made special down to his own family one day.

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Let him believe for as long as he will. Christmas changes after they stop believing.

To me personally I think they should get the experience to believe in Santa, it makes it more magical for them and they are only young once. How might they feel when older that they didn’t get to experience it, when it’s all their friends maybe talked about. Or they could accidentally say to someone oh but my mum told me he’s not real, kids are good at slipping things like that out. However I don’t use it an excuse to get them to behave. And I don’t over buy and say it’s all from santa. Normally a main item or two and the stocking is from Santa and the rest he knows I get x

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Pros… you get to see his face light up when he sees Santa. It’s good to give children something to believe in that teaches them faith in the things they can not see. Cons… they will be THE kid ruining Christmas for other kids by telling them there’s no Santa Claus

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Kids need to believe. It’s good for them

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I explained to my kids once they were older that Santa was a real person along time ago that brought presents to kids and since he was so nice we still continue to celebrate him…but hes not real and doesn’t come and bring presents anymore

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Don’t be selfish. Absolutely ridiculous.

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Let me ask you something, do you believe in the tooth fairy and Easter bunny? You know around Easter we tell our kids to be good so the bunny will come. We tell kids to be good so they get bday presents…

I think you should have had a dog, not a child. :roll_eyes::roll_eyes:

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