I don’t know how to help myself. I’ve been a SAHM since March due to Covid. I gave birth to my second child about six months ago, and I also have a three-year-old. I am so touched out. And the crying is almost never-ending. Baby #2 won’t sleep unless it’s in bed with my husband and me. I haven’t had a good night’s sleep in so long, and every day I cant get even 5 minutes to myself. My husband doesn’t really give me any help when he’s home. We are struggling financially and are having to live a roommate style with family. I feel like I’m doing most of the housework even though there are two other people with no jobs or kids. My husband and I aren’t doing great either. I feel so alone. Idk if I’m just ranting, but I just needed to ask someone that maybe has a better handle on their own sanity right now if they have any advice for me.
Make a chore chart that everyone has to partake in. Also, you need to talk to your husband about you getting some alone time when he gets home from work. You also need date night. And put that baby in its crib and let them self soothe.
Communicate with ur husband and the others that are NOT working. Those who dont work should have ZERO reason to not help around the house. Its NEVER up to one person do to keep the house up. See if there are jobs you can do working from home. Even set up a “chore chart”…that even has decided time to self on there for each person.
Tell who ever is there, excuse me, can you watch my babies for a few minutes n go straight to bed…n take an hour nap
Get an Ergo, it’s a carrier, it’ll help calm baby down and give you free hands to use for your toddler. You need to get some fresh air and let your standards lower. The constant being home is putting everyone on edge.
3 year old and baby? Sounds like a normal day in the life.
Put your foot down an tell the ones who don’t work to get their fingers out an start helping! Also the having the baby in the same bed as you an your husband isn’t good. Time to let the baby cry you have to be cruel to be kind an give he or she something with your scent on it like a top or a cuddly toy / snuggy… an just preserver with it, im totally against babys an kids sleeping in the same bed as adults anything could happen when yous are asleep! Speak to your husband an get him to help with HIS kids also its a 2 parent job
Ummm excuse me, 2 UNEMPLOYED ADULTS in the house and You are doing all the cooking and cleaning? HELL NAW ,the first chat I would be having is with Dad, there’s a helluva lot more to being a Father than making them, Parenting was designed to be a 2 person job, Next chat would be with EVERYONE else, You aren’t THIER WIFE or Mommy time to start pitching in or make other living arrangements!
Get out of that toxic situation. It won’t get better.
Get a job, sleep train your baby, make a budget every week.
Look for a job, and into daycares facilities.
Start sleep training your baby, a 6 month old baby should be perfectly capable of sleeping through the night in their own. And nap at least twice a day, for at least 3 hours total.
Make a budget every week. Talk to your husband. And once you guys are a little more stable financially you can get your own place.
Go on walks in the meantime, run with your kids. It’s really dangerous to be stuck at the house feeling like this.
Most of us have been there. I just motored thru somehow let the kids cry long enough to have a bubblebath if you can things do get better might not seem like it now trust me they will power of prayer helps vent to. Him he will carry you good luck stay safe enjoy your family
its called routine first get baby to sleep in its own cot lights out music on then get your self in a routine if its not your home you just do your room clean the bathroom and toilet your own personal washing your husband should be helping if its only taking the kids to the park while you have a rest get into that routine and work together as a team good luck and god bless
First of all, you are a damn super hero mom! You keep that in mind everyday. Your those kids hero and their everything. It seems as though you are the only real parent and adult there. You clean what you need for you and your kids, bathroom, your dishes their clothes. Make your room your safe haven for the three of you. As far as your husband, he made those kids too. Don’t ask, tell him he needs to help bc taking care of two kids is a full time job. Do you have any family around. I know with covid that’s hard but reach out to them if possible. Routine will help and try swaddlers for baby in their own crib, basinet etc. Have the same issue with my almost 4 months old and sleeping by himself. Make a routine for the older babe as well. Then take some time for yourself, a nice bath/shower (lock that bathroom door) make tea/coffee read a book whatever you enjoy. Best of luck and lots of prayers for you. Stay strong. You got this.
My baby would only sleep when being held which allowed me no time to rest. My husband didnt help either and we were on the brink of separation.
First, I’d go to counseling. First for you then as a couple. It helped me a lot and yes I got some medication too but whatever it takes.
Then sit down with the other people living in the home, including your husband, and tell them that they all need to pull their weight. If it helps, make a chore list
Been there, take a breath you’re not alone I had to sit my boyfriend down and say I can’t do this by myself that’s why there are things not getting done. I know it’s really hard when all you want to do is scream and yell, but (based on my convo) it doesn’t help at all and will just shut them down. Definitely talk to them about it and keep your goal in your mind . You’re trying to ask for help , so will your next sentence help get you there or will it insult them and start a fight?
Hope it works out
Only advice I can give is to legit sit every adult in ur house down and let them know how u feel and u need them to pitch in. But other than that I’m sending u a virtual hug mama. Try and take a nice bubble bath tonight if u can even for 3 min!! I’ve been there I kno how hard it is hun
Chores and housework will never end. But your sanity will. Esp with a newborn/infant. Kids will always need a healthy mother before they need a spotless house. Its overwhelming and crushing at times. The others can chip in to help or deal with how things are left but you should never sacrifice your sanity bc it can lead to many more problems, including the safety of your children.
Ask for help from a relative if you can. Don’t sweat the little stuff( house chores)… Rest when you can.
I started sleep training and it has been a life saver!!! Baby is happier, I’m happier, I get me time it’s alll greaaattt. Hard at first but worth it
Do not be afraid to ask for help from anyone it’s okay take a deep breath and keep going you’re a great mom