Needing to rant a little about my situation

Don’t be afraid to speak up. It’s your sanity and everyone else’s that is affected if you just let it fester

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My best advice try to approach him in a loving manner. If your giving off a anger vive he may become defensive. Choose your setting, like go for a walk, get out in the fresh air. Talk with him not at him. You can’t fight when your holding hands, touch or even sit face to face. Try not using the word 'I" as much. Reassure your husband that you love him and its ok to feel different emotions. I was the type of mom who did everything for my kid and rarely asked for help. I was exhausted. I had to learn to share the responsibilities. The more time he spends independently with child the more comfortable he will become. I actually had to get a partime job to give my husband parent time. It was hard at first but it will straighten your marriage.

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Grab those car keys and say you’re going to the store. It’s his turn to parent. He’s got help right there. You don’t have to buy anything. Just wander alone.

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Maybe mom needs a break…

Yes get read of even one just you and kids will do fine you will get more help trying it it mite work

Hang in there. You are coping and it will get better.

Put your faith in God and pray about it.

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I have time to love on those little ones…

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I just tell my other half that I’m going to take a bath and go. I leave the kids with him and lock the door.

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My daughter was having the same trouble what they came up with was a couple nights a week was her break nights he took care of the baby and the kids while she took a break to sit and watch a movie have a glass of wine go for a walk actually sit in the bathtub without being disturbed. And if something came up that he just couldn’t handle at least she was there to pitch in if necessary

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It’s hard.

I think it would be helpful to seek counseling for u alone and also for u and ur husband together. We all need a break sometimes n if there is anyway that u can help him help u that would be ideal. It’s amazing what a good night’s sleep, time alone n good food will do.

But the 2 of u need to communicate, compromise and remember ur a team. Thru good times n bad.

Is there anyone else u can reach out to to help watch the kids so the 2 of u can get some alone time?

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Here’s an idea to hopefully help you get a bit more sleep. I had it above my bed and was able to get more rest

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Ask family maybe grandparents for some support possibly . If not when the pandemic clears up try & get a part time job just to get out of the house . Speak to your spouse about having @ least a couple hrs a wk to your self . Even if it’s going to a store to just get alone time . Try & build new friendships too . & maybe you & your husband could try to plan a date nite every couple wks

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Honestly, sounds like you and hubby need to have a heart to heart talk. I’m working from home with a 2 year old. It’s hard and I only have 1. I would tell hubby you need some you time, even if it’s for a nap. As far as the chores, can you talk to family to see if it can be split more evenly? Your hormones are probably still leveling out too. Sounds like a mix of stuff. Hang in there mama. You’re not alone. :two_hearts:

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It’s very hard right now my son is 8 and having very hard time doing on line he can’t sit still he hits walls yells he’s very bored at home he hates wants to go to school really he misses his friend he really drives me and my mom crazy we went to hospital for so much stress it’s very very stress full and doing zoom with a 3 year old he just turn 3 with some special needs that the same school can’t take him because covid and all does is bit me and hit me and have very bad tatum’s it is so hard to do zoom with a 3 year old tell me about it’s a nightmare for parents I actually wish I had my kids at a young age so I won’t be dealing with this crazy life

I’m feeling this! Very similar to my own life. Living roommates style for 4 yrs though my kids have their own rooms my youngest still co sleeps. I am an essential employee trying to help educate my children remotely. And having marital issues resulting in divorce. Its still new and fresh…but my advice would be ASK for help. Express your feelings. Especially to your husband. Let him know you need help. Ask a roommate for a few moments of childcare so you can shiwer…have a nap. Take care of yourself! You’re working hard momma. GREAT JOB. Best foot forward is all you can do. Praying for your family

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Is there any way you could get some time to yourself? Even if it were just for 15 minutes? When my youngest was born, I was super stressed out and used to get out and walk little laps back and forth to the mailbox until the endorphins kicked in.

maybe u need to vent to him about the situation and he needs to be there to help u when he gets home.tell him how u feel.

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First off, I would start out with a chore list for all of u without jobs and a schedule. U also need to lay ur child in the bed of their own, give a warm sippy cup or bottle before bed with both kids., u need to also communicate with ur husband. Let him know how u feel. When ur husband comes home, tell him u are going to take a ling bath and need some time to urself. Put u and ur kids on a schedule. Also make sure they get there naps in the day at the same time. When they nap, u nap. Also keep a journal, write out ur frustrations. It helps. Rant all u want in there. Let ur husband see it so he can see how u feel and see how ut days are going. Sometimes reading is better than talking. It will help with ur sanity.

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