*No bashing* I feel unattached from my baby due to abuse from their dad: Thoughts?

Is it normal to feel unattached from your unborn child after experiencing non-stop verbal abuse and occasional physical abuse from the father? I can’t stop thinking the child will grow up to be exactly like him, and I feel horrible for the feelings I’m having.

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Your child didnt do any of that. As a mother, you need to realize that. That child wont grow up to be anything like that if you raise them not to be. Dont let the sins of the father be the burden on the child.

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No it’s not abnormal. I take parenting classes at my local pregnancy care center, if you’re concerned about hear feelings please contacts your doctor and talk to them. They will be able to help you. There are also lots of support groups for moms that you could look into. Prayers for the best! :two_hearts:

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It’s not your babies fault. Children learn what they are taught. Leave. For yours and babies sake. Baby won’t turn out like him but if you keep him around baby can end up being YOU not him.

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You are most likely experiencing some postpartum depression but it is pretty common I suggest you call your doctor today and let them know they are there to help you

It’s not that babies fault. Leave the abuse, and raise your child to be good.

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I was there. Remember the child is innocent. It will grow as the environment you raise it to be. Kinda like pit bulls. They aren’t born mean. You will grow to be protective and loving. And so will the innocent child. Join a mommy group too. That can help. Good luck.

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Don’t feel bad. Abuse can really change a person and how they think. I know I needed some support afterwards to get back to me and a better way of thinking.

As for your child. I have a son and he’s so goofy, caring, and loving he’s nothing like the father. He’s everything that I put into him.

I’m sure your child will be like you :heart:

Take it one day at a time and just know you got this

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If I tell you it is “normal” people are going to freak…
What i will say is: It is common for women who go through major stressors to feel detatched from baby and go through a depression.
Let your doctor know and find help. Even just simple counseling (which could be covered by Medicaid) could be a big help.
You and baby will be in my thoughts.

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U gonn raise ur kid so its gonna be a blessing its not gonna be like the dad and once u see the baby u gonna fsll in love

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I can absolutely relate to this. I did feel this way with one of mine because it was constant abuse from my significant other at the time.as well as at the beginning of this pregnancy I felt this way I was really ashamed but I had to cut all ties with him. I didnt think a mother could feel this way but it does happen. Remember to look and your baby and see how precious they are and how they have changed your life becahse that child is dependent on you and pray about it as well hold your baby close as much as you can even if you just talk or cry to them. I do alot and tell them your sorry tou feel that way but you love them so much and they have blessed you so much. Do this as much as you can i promise the bond will come.

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How could you not feel that way - pain like that - esp from the father of your baby - has a way of making everything seem myopic. I suggest leaving him to give yourself and the baby a fresh start - the little one isn’t to blame and trust me it’s easier to do when they’re little. It’s not ideal - it’s not the dream but it is much easier. He won’t change - he’s shown you his true colors. Good luck :heart:

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Leave the situation, protect yourself and your child. I know we over complicate relationships and make excuses but there are no excuses, it’s your job to protect the baby and you, make it simple. Leave leave leave.

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Sounds like ptsd and post partum

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Your baby is half you. You will raise him or her to be better, to be kind and loving. I would say, get into some therapy. Healing yourself will go far in helping you realize your baby isn’t him… your baby is innocent and will love you unconditionally.

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I think it’s completely normal. I didn’t have the verbal abuse or anything out of the ordinary and I had absolutely no emotional connection while I was pregnant. Like at all. As soon as she was born I fell in love :yellow_heart: but you need to get away from that man!!

Your baby is innocent. He needs your love and affection. Feel that way towards the father not your baby. Love your baby.

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Your feeling are absolutely valid. I suggest seeking therapy to start healing from that trauma.

If you’re still with the father my suggestion is to leave. If your child grows up watching that behavior he very well could grow up to be like that but if you get out now he should be fine. I would also go to see a therapist about what you’re feeling and going through. Your baby needs you to be strong and love him/her

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