*NO BASHING* *TRIGGER WARNING* My ex abused me: What else can I do?

My ex started physically abusing me when I found out I was pregnant, he went to jail in February until August, I gave birth in April and they allowed him out for 24hrs for the birth, which I was dumb enough to allow. I thought everything would change when our son was born, but it only got worse. He beat me so bad infront of our son, my parents had to call the cops. The next day I tried to wash my hair (he dumped a mixed drink in my hair) and I couldn’t, I had to have my sister wash my hair for me. I ended up having a concussion for 2+months and now far sighted in my left eye. I’ve signed the “Good Cause” paper so he can’t be around him but I need help, what else can I do?

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DON’T GO BACK TO HIM…My first husband choked me with a nylon till it broke and was wrapping me in a sheet when my oldest (who was 5) came into the room and he stopped. DON’T GO BACK.

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Restraining order! If your scared he could hurt you then get one for your safety! At least hell go to jail if he’s caught near you

No contact protective order go get a lawyer to protect you and your child.

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No contact restraining order. Supervised visits with a social worker if he is ever allowed to see him. Get away and never go back to him

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Move. Just get out now while you can. Take your son and go. It only gets worse. Trust me

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Speak to a lawyer immediately and get all your paperwork together for evidence

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Get an order or protection immediately and move to where he cant find you.

Follow through with filing charges and prosecuting him. Get a GOOD lawyer and file a paternity suit and get sole custody with an order of protection for both of you. Sorry you’re going through this. I’ve been there too :cry::pray:t2:

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File for a protective restraining order against him and move, change your number, and then file sole custody with no visitation for your baby.

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https://www.whengeorgiasmiled.org/aspire-news-app/
This is the DV app that Dr Phil’s wife created. It’s awesome

Leave him n never turn back

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Coming from a DV survivor…do NOT contact him ever. Get an order of protection and a gun. File the charges and don’t back down. Talk to your coordinator and get counseling. An order of protection is great but get a weapon honey

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Follow through with charges…and LEAVE FOR GOOD. For the sake of you and your son please STICK with it. Don’t believe the…“I’ll change crap!”

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Run. Please…just run
What more do u need? Read what you wrote. This man has permanently injured you…love is kind my friend. Call a womens refuge or helpline let them help you…but please trust me. You will never regret running for your life. It will be hard at first but i swear it gets easier. Ive never been happier. So from 1 survivor to another . Value and respect yourself enough to choose you. Life can be good. It can be happy it can be fun. All u have to do is choose you

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Get your self a gun some type of protection

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Walk away and don’t look back

First off I want to say I’m so sorry you have to go through this. As a domestic violence survivor I would suggest a restraining order. You can actually put your child on it as well. They are good for 3 years here in CA. Do not go back to him. Also once you feel better maybe look into some self defense courses. Unfortunately, restraining orders ect are only a paper so he can and may try to come near you if that happens you call the police. When I got mine I gave the police department a copy with a picture of him. Best of luck to you.

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Therapy plus everything they said.

All of this ^^ also look into getting a trained guard dog

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