Pain during sex 7 and a half months after birth: Help?

When I had baby 7.5 months ago, I tore really really bad, and they took an hour to sew me back up and basically had to make sure I had separate holes again. Now- it hurts SO bad during sex. I don’t know if there’s scar tissue or what, but it hurts to the point I feel sick and can’t enjoy any of it. Has anyone had this? What do I do? What can I do? I have seen my Dr at six weeks; they gave me another six weeks before giving me the OK to try anything because it took a long time for me to heal. Even at the 12-week mark, it hurt when they checked me out, but they said I’m all healed up.


May have given you an extra stitch. Heard that happens a lot

Get a second opinion.


Have you tried lube? Idk exactly what kind of pain you’re having but lube might work

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See a physical therapist!!! I had to. Helped tremendously!!!


Definitely a second opinion, different doctors office and do not give up until you and your doctor have a reason why.


Get another opinion, another Ob/Gyn at least but a plastic surgeon may be needed. That kind of pain is not normal!

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I would recommend finding a Pelvic Health Physical Therapist. I went to PT for a couple months after having my daughter and it helped me so much!

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Go to another dr. And like someone else said they lube, take it slow

Following. 3 years later and it still hurts

Pelvicfloor physio!!!best decision of my life

I had an almost 4th degree tear massive amount of stitches and was on bed rest for 3.5 months after birth didn’t get the ok to try to have sex until 20 weeks pp. My son will be 14 months tomorrow I still have pain with sex. I had to get shots to break up the scar tissue from my ob/gyn and am now in physical therapy it seems to be helping a bit but I’ve only done 1 pt session. Good luck I know it sucks.

Did you have a 4th degree tear? If so message me! I will invite you to the fb group. There is a lot of extremely helpful information in this group and everyone is really great!! I would ask your doc about pelvic floor therapy otherwise.

After my first vaginal delivery in 2004 it took almost 6 years after for it not to hurt. I made the choice in 2014 with my second child to have a c-section. Wasn’t about to go through that pain for years again.

So I’m a year and 1 month pp and it JUST stopped hurting me. I have 2 kids, the first I had a 2nd degree tear and with my 2nd I had minimal tearing. Was checked out and all was fine. But still hurt so immensely. Sometimes it’s a mental thing. You get so in your head from the trauma you experienced it physically affects you. And its SO HARD to get passed. That’s what I had and had to overcome and it still affects me here and there but not even close to as bad.

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Go to a differant ob and have them check to see if you wrre given the husbands stitch
It can cause a lot if pain and discomfort. Its when your dr pits an extra stich in to make you tighter for your husband.

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They may have given you a “husband stitch”. That’s when they give you an extra stitch to make it “tighter” for your husband. It happened to me after I gave birth to my second child and it hurt every single time I had sex, and it will hurt until it’s reversed in most cases (physical therapist, or child birth). When I had my third child thankfully they stitched me back up properly and I haven’t had any pain since.

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Ask your OB about a Vestibulectomy. Best choice I ever made.

easiest description: an episiotomy revision, but different.

Yeah pelvic floor therapy! I’m going now even tho I had a c section and so far I haven’t seen much improvement but there’s some!

If the area where you got stitched back up hurts its most likely the scar tissue. Dont forget having a baby really takes a toll on your body. But see another Dr. They may have another treatment option. Also use witch hazel on it still, it will help with soothing the area as it is probably still healing.