Hey moms, for a while now, I’ve had to deal with giving into letting my fiancé’s parents giving my son things I’ve already explained I didn’t want him having in the first place. He used to love having water ONLY water until they offered apple juice a year back and dangled it right in front of him, teasing him saying, “you have to ask mommy first, go ahead ask mommy” and I’ve said no many times and that never get through their heads. I’ve had them over to talk and tell them he’s only allowed a certain juice that I found has very little sugar in it just to be snubbed, having my MIL walk out just raising her eyebrows at me and never said anything to me for the next two weeks. Not only did my FIL say he would give the juice i said i only wanted him drinking they decided to find their own that had more in it. He has no signs of cavities but he does have tooth decay on more than one of his teeth now and I brush and also floss his teeth twice a day he has never had a problem doing it he loves doing it himself too. They now offer him Fresca, and my mil said, “ask mommy tell her there’s no sugar in it” but did some research to find there’s a lot of acids in it, which isn’t good for young one’s teeth either and a lot of other things. I find it hard to put my foot down when they never listen, and I get treated like I’m not there when I want things done the way I want it. Hearing “my kids turned out fine” like I’m not raising your kids, I’m raising my own (my first) my son loves his grandparents and most visits he doesn’t want to leave. I GET IT their grandparents but they should have the best interest in keeping his teeth healthy too when the dentist have told is to really watch his front teeth now before getting any worse. He’s been drinking this, for now, a month?? Not every day, but he now asks for it every day, and I’ve been slowly trying to cut juice out of the house now and only offer him water. Thank you for just feeling overwhelmed as I’m also and plan on being more strict with this baby.
So compromise and let him have some, but water it down. Or put your foot down and tell them to respect you as a mother or you won’t bring him around.
Pretty sure Fresca is just cancer in a can…
I wouldn’t… if they can’t respect you as a mother keep him away. As much as grandparents should be spoiling their kids, they can do so in other ways. Not in drinks that are adult oriented. If they don’t then you’ll have no choice.
no, for Pete’s sake, why does this question even need to be asked? Don’t put your kid in a position of being fed or given things from these people
They are doing it to get under your skin with the “you have to ask mom” when they know you don’t want him drinking that stuff. Put your foot down or don’t let them come over for a while until they realize you mean business.
My twins are 12 and have never had soda
If say definitely no
My son used to beg please water down coke…and it was really watered down:)
You haven’t got your point across. I have no fear in telling someone exactly what I think when they are being disrespectful.
Any juice is full of sugar, the same as not giving a child to much fruit as there is a lot of sugar in it, his teeth will rot water is best for children . Oh tell you’re outlaws where to go he’s your child not theirs & they must respect your parenting!!
They had the chance to raise their children. This is yours.
If they can’t respect you then they don’t see kids. Not their kids to over turn your decision
Why did you have to compromise and give in? If you say no then that’s it. And the in laws should be okay with that, if not and they are giving your child things thay you do not want your child to have or continuing to pressure you in to trying to give your child things you dont want to then i’d tell them until they learn their place they arent allowed to see them!! Sounds harsh but you are the mother and what you say goes, they are just the grandparents they need to learn that they really dont have any say
I wouldn’t allow them around my kid if they can’t follow simple instructions that I’ve given them.
Doesn’t Fresca have artificial sweetener in it? I believe that’s not very good for babies
Has your fiance said anything to his parents??
Your kid, your rules. You don’t need to explain a thing.
I would tell them the dentist is concerned about his teeth and only wants him having water and milk… so he can ONLY have water and milk.
Dont allow with anyone who doesnt follow what you want or dont want for YOUR Child. If they cant listen and have respect for you and your child cut them out. You’re a mom now put your foot down. If you wont stand up for your child who will?
can’t follow my rules can’t see my kid