Should I ask for the full amount in child support?

My ex-husband and I have been divorced for five years. We have a young daughter. He also has a daughter that is now grown in college and out on her own. Originally when we got divorced, I did not want to put any type of financial burden on him, so in the divorce, I asked for half of the daycare cost, which was 250.00 a month. In between the initial filing and the divorce is finalized, he never made an effort to pay a penny, so the judge was going to order full child support again. I intervened and said I did not want to financially burden him, so the least amount the judge would allow to be ordered was 98.00 a week. That is what his current support still is. I am currently seeing a counselor and have for a while now in order to deal with the trauma of everything. My counselor has been really pushing me the last six months to reevaluate his child support and make him pay the full monthly amount that he would owe based on his income. He tells me it’s not about me, the money is not for me and that my daughter deserves that money regardless of how I feel, especially since his other child is now grown and he is no longer financially supporting her. My daughter has never stayed overnight with him; he does not access his visitation that he is allowed. He sees her approx 12 hours a month split between 2 visits, maybe sometimes not even that. He does make good money as well as I do. He makes a little more than I; however, it is pretty close to equal. He has never once offered to help with anything extra, nor have I ever asked anything of him. I do not make him pay for medical bills, dental, eye glasses, co-pays, and I carry her on my insurance as well as a secondary so that the amount out of pocket is a little less for these things even though it is an extra monthly payment I pay. Would it be fair to ask him to pay the full amount?

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If he’s not involved I’d ask for the full amount.

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This is a no brainer. If you dont need the money put it away for her future.

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He should be paying full support. That’s the least he should do if his name is on the birth certificate.

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Think you’re answering your own question my dear.

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Hit his bi*ch ass with it allllllllllll.

I mean that’s entirely up to you. I personally would rather just deal with it on my own rather then stress about relying on another for money. He isn’t paying you now he won’t necessarily pay you even if they force him too. It’s money it’s not worth it in my opinion.

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He apparently doesn’t care to be a parent. Make him pay full amount or give up his parental rights

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Your daughter deserves it,if you dont want it for you now,put it away for her college later.

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I think your counselor is pushing you to do something you really don’t want to do. If you feel like you are ok with him not paying, then why put you and the father through the whole court thing again? The $98 in child support should be getting taken out of his paychecks every month.

Yes get the full amount he’s not helping you at all and even if you don’t need the money invest it in a low risk account for her college fund

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Make him pay the full thing . He ain’t special . And every father not with there child and not seeing there child on a regular definitely needs to pay

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Get it and put it up for her… If her dad does not want to be full time dad then he can pay full money… But in the end it is what your heart tells you to do… But it would be a nice college nest egg for her…

Definitely get the full amount! If anything you can open a savings for your daughter.

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I wouldn’t poke the bear, personally. I’d leave it alone.

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He may not exercise his rights to her because he is paying so little. If you ask for full support he could come back and ask for more time with her to lessen that support. If you are ok with that then yes, ask for the full amount. If you are not think long and hard about whether money is a good enough reason to change your entire family dynamic.

Ask for it. Then put it in a saving account for when she is older or collage. She will need it then

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Im no professional but i dont think counselors are supposed to be forcing anyone or nagging anyone to do anything while working.

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I wouldn’t worry about helping his financial burden, the same way he’s not worried about your financial burdens or time with his daughter. Don’t protect selfish people.

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Where are wrong is divorce is not fair. Is it fair to your daughter? Why are you worried about him?

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