Should I ask my daughters father to help cover tuition?

My daughter will be starting pre-k this Fall. The only school convenient to work and home is private and goes up to middle school. Her father and I are not together, but he pays child support, the court-ordered. Would it be ok to ask him to help with tuition if he already pays child support? I told him I was going to enroll her, and he never offered to help. This seems like a wonderful school and a good opportunity. I would like for my daughter to stay in until she ages out. But as she gets older, tuition is more expensive.

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I would ask him, it’s his daughter too.

You should definitely discuss it with him. If you don’t ask you won’t know. Keep in this in mind if you ever go back to court over child support. Ask that half the tuition be part of the child support.

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Typically your child support order would list both of your percentages you are required to pay for out of pocket medical, daycare and education costs.

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It never hurts to ask. However unfortunately he is not obligated to pay for a private school education. If you want him to help you may need to go to court to ask for that with an updated child support order .

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You can ask but he doesn’t have to pay anything unless it’s court ordered.

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I would ask. But be ready for a No.
Talk to the school about financial aid too.

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No child support should go towards tuition.

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I would still ask. Just because he pays child support doesn’t mean he can’t help with helping with your LOs school. Parents normally pay well over what the other parent would pay in child support for their child. Custodial parents don’t get to just “cap out” at spending the same amount they receive in child support from the other parent. It’s worth a shot to ask!

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Yes. Child support covers daily needs ie clothes, food, shelter, ect. Other costs such as medical, school, extracurricular should be split. Did u have a custody agreement? A custody agreement should address these extra costs.

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I doubt they would make him pay it as public school is always an option and it is your choice to put her in a private school

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Most agreements every extras for this child like school, camp, doctors, activities etc should be split and not apart of the child support. This depends if you have a custody agreement

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You can ask you can always petition the court to readjust

Its ur choice to send her to private school he has nothing to do with that decision why should he be responsible for paying for ur choice

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Child support? What’s that? I wouldn’t know, i chose not to get anything from my sperm donor. If i were you in your situation, i would ask. But if he says no, you do whatever is best for your child…

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Go back to court. You can ask for help with tuition in court.

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In my experiences…good luck!! Lol! Wouldn’t hurt to ask…but I’m sure his response might go something like this, " the extra cost is YOUR choice, the child could go to a public school for free" not knowing him, he might agree that that would be best for the child!!:crossed_fingers:

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No. If you receive child support that’s what that should go towards, especially because it is a decision it sounds like you made before asking his opinion.

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This is what you want for convenience, I get it, but no he won’t have to pay.

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You can ask, but that doesn’t mean he’ll be forced to pay it. Stuff like that has to be agreed upon. Although I guess every state is different

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