Should I be concerned with what my son was looking up on his phone?

My 14-year old (soon to be 15) has recently started becoming more interested in girls. He has had a phone since he was 13, and I will randomly go through his phone just to make sure things are ok, or he’s not talking to anyone he shouldn’t be. Well, tonight, I did one of my random checks, and there is some cartoon porn on his search history. I know it is probably pretty typical for a kid his age to start thinking about this kind of stuff and acting on it. My question is, what would you do? Would you take his phone? Would you just have “the talk” with him? Any advice is appreciated. Please be nice, lol he is my oldest and I’m very unsure of what to do. I don’t want him to think sex is “bad,” but I also don’t want to just ignore the situation either. Thanks!

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Let him be. If you take it away your teaching him sex is bad and shameful. Just have the talk and be there for him

Just have a sex talk, things he may see on internet, but don’t call him out on what you saw on his phone cuz all he’ll hear is that you snooped through his phone, he’ll be embarrassed and shut you out.

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It’s time to have that talk with him. Remember be easy on him with this because is a natural thing! Just make sure you are supportive and he understands that you will always be there when he needs to talk when he decides that the time is right for him to begin those experiences.

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Teach him about safe sex and let it be. The moment you teach him it’s bad, he’s going to be sneaky and won’t tell you anything

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I’d leave it be , sounds pretty normal for a boy that age. Admitting you went through his phone only creates more problems for your relationship.

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depends on the type of cartoon porn…to what extent? I’d say keep an open mind and speak with him, however that can lead to less sharing from him on things and he may learn how to hide stuff. If you have a close and open relationship with him, just chat about it. Honesty is usually the best and you want him to be able to come to you with some things.

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It’s important that you talk to him about a few things. One is that it’s completely natural rove
to be curious. Another is what he looks at and what can get him in trouble, such as child porn. Bad thing is that porn is one big rabbit hole they can get lost in and find their way to things that are not natural or illegal. Porn is also addicting so maybe monitor more closely.

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Talk to him. Show him disease affect, pregnancy responsibilities, etc. taking his phone won’t really help. Kids around him at school are talking about sex, I promise you.

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My advice to you would be to let your son know never to be ashamed to talk to you about it. Hes 15 of course he will become interested in these things nothing to be ashamed about. Sit him down and have the talk good luck

Sounds like a late bloomer. Lol they doing that from 12.

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Don’t tell him you found the phone just leave it alone. I’d just have the sex talk and let him know if he needs privacy to put something on the door so y’all know to knock or not enter.

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talk, talk, talk and never stop!

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Yes have the talk. You probably should have already had the talk.also include no means no and that a girl doesnt owe you a thing ig youre nice.
Also include that he is valuable and lovable and he shouldnt settle for girls who are mean or abusive.

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He should’ve been told about sex at age 10. YOU are creating shame by failing to address this directly. Do it NOW.

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I would talk with my kids n caution them about certain things nude photos shared r sex traffickers on internet n just make sure they’re aware what’s out their n the craziness of some !!

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Don’t embarass yourselves.

Now is the perfect time to talk to him about the birds and the bees, preferably Dad but if he’s not around Mom is just as good…Be casual and cool about it, then on a serious note what’s appropriate and what isn’t…

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This is quite normal. You need to become comfortable with discussing sex with him. Your goal should be for him NOT to learn from his peers as they are clueless. Taking his phone only makes you comfortable not him. He hasn’t done anything wrong.
Question: Where is his father? Do you have a brother. There are things going on with his body that you don’t understand.

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I found porn in my sons phone at 12. I had a talk with him and explained to him that masturbation was normal. However, I made it clear to him that he isn’t allowed to watch Porn because Porn is for adults. I do not trust the types of content he may run into. Like incest, bestiality, etc. I feel like the teenage mind is not prepared for that content. It can fuck a kids head up.