Should I be the one waking up in the middle of the night for my boyfriends child?

I just wanted some advice about my current situation. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2.5 years, and he has a 2 year+7-month-old daughter. I’ve helped him take care of her since about a month after she was born. Don’t get me wrong; I love her a lot. I feed her, bathe her, help her go to sleep, etc. However, she does not sleep well at night, and I’m sure that is because she goes between houses… but she wakes up about six times throughout the night and sometimes more. We share a room with her as we live in his parent’s house. My problem is, is it my responsibility to sleep on the side of the bed closest to her and have to wake up 6+ times a night to tend to her while my boyfriend catches his zzz’s? I already have bad insomnia and have to take a medication just to get to sleep and constantly getting woken up by whining and crying is so draining for me as it’s hard for me to even get back to sleep. We typically switch off every night… as in he does one night and I do the other etc. But recently, it’s just really gotten on my nerves. I’ve talked to him about it, and he thinks I’m being overdramatic and still wants me to switch off nights with him. Am I selfish and overdramatic, or am I right by telling him it’s not my responsibility as I literally help him with everything else imaginable when it comes to her? Please, no negativity.

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I know it’s not always sunshine & rainbows, but if it were me I guess since I do everything else I would also feel obligated. That’s just me tho. I always end up doing too much & totally draining myself to where I have nothing left to give. Don’t allow yourself to get to this point. There has to be some kind of way to maybe wear her out more. Force a routine; same thing every single night at bedtime. To be honest my daughter was doing the same thing. I finally broke her. It took a lot of crying behind closed doors, trial & error, but she now only gets up to potty. Hallelujah! I for sure thought I was losing the bedtime battle. We do bath, snack, book, prayers, & bed (& brush teeth plus go potty) I try to cover all my bases because I felt like a zombie most days. You got this mama! Don’t give up!!

I wouldn’t do it the child is his responsibility, he should appreciate what you do as is… Put her next to him he is the parent he should be up…

I think it’s his responsibility as his the father your just a bonus to his life by helping him. You do a lot right now as it is and he needs to understand that too and give you a break.

You have been with this guy fir 2.5 years and he has a 2 year old and a 7 month old? And you’re living in his parents basement? I think you answered your own question.