Should I be the one who contacts my exes side of the family?

My son’s father and I are no longer together and he has no contact with our son. Should it be my responsibility to contact his side of the family to spend time with or get to know our son? His family knows how to contact us but haven’t.

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Nope they will if they want y worry bout them just do u

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I wouldn’t. Just keep on doing what your doing :blush:

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No ma’am it is NOT your responsibility. If they know how to get ahold of you then they will if they want to. Otherwise don’t trouble yourself

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Nope not at all. If they cared they would have.

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Nope, it’s up to them. If they wanted to see your son they would contact you.

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No. Not your responsibility

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No. You can let them know that if they would like to see him to let you know and something can be arranged but that’s about it.

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My ex mother contacted me and she sees her grandson every week his father hasn’t seen him in 2 years

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No it’s not your job. But when morales come into play, you can invite them to see your child but if they don’t act upon your invitation I wouldn’t hurt yourself or go out of your way to make this happen

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Sometimes family don’t no how to without anxiety either. Like they’ll upset there son or you by asking. Or scared of rejection for trying. My ex father in law ended up going through mediation to get contact with my son when my sons dad went to jail. the first thing I said was why didn’t you just ask me I don’t mind at all I’m not scary lol.
He just missed his grand son and had the wrong people in his ear.

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Did they have a relationship with your son before the separation? You can ask if they want a relationship with their grandson. But don’t be surprised if they don’t

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I never have. Depending on the age of your son, maybe discuss it with him and let him choose. If he’d like a relationship with them, then reach out or let him reach out. I agree, it’s not necessarily your responsibility but I always try to take my kid’s feelings into consideration before I make decisions like that. If he’s still small, maybe reach out to them once or twice, only because they could have been told a lot of bs and it makes it uncomfortable for them as well. Good luck. :heart:

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Nopeeeeee :-1:t3::-1:t3::-1:t3::-1:t3::-1:t3::-1:t3: that’s their choice :disappointed: I know it’s not fair

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Nope. They can contact you. I dont chase anybody

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Let them contact you.

I am going through the same thing & I was with their dad till they were 3 & 2 now about too be 5 & 4 no need to try when it’s not my job to have them be apart of my children’s life. My kids are good either way.

The phone works BOTH ways! If they DON’T contact U then NO U shouldn’t reach out to them unless U want too but honestly I wouldn’t!!:purple_heart::purple_heart::pray::pray:

I’m in the same situation my sons father is out of the picture and I wasn’t sure his family would want to be apart of my sons life I ended up reaching out to his sister and she’s been 100% wanting to be involved she said it is her nephew so yes :100::100:. They may be a bit shy to reach out as they don’t know if that’s what you want.

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Reach out once. Then you have passed responsibility to them.

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