Should I delete someone who doesn't make an effort to be in my life?

So I added my kids grandma on my fb so she has a way to communicate with my kids and 2 weeks has past and she hasn’t reached out to my kids so I want to delete her. So am I wrong if I delete her? She hasn’t talked to my kids in almost a year and my kids SD is choosing not to be in the life because his gf doesn’t want him to be. I was trying to be nice because I changed my number because it was a lot of drama with their whole side of the family. So when she sent the friend request I thought she wanted to finally make an effort even though she is never consistent.

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Maybe she’s not ready to take the first leap. Keep her let her see pictures of your baby.

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I had similar situation. I deleted those who just added me to keep an eye on my life.

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She probably just wants to see posts of your kids. I don’t see anything wrong with it as long as there’s no drama

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Both of my kids dads families dont have much to do with them( both of my girls dads have passed away)… And my theory is, It is not your job to make sure that they are active in your kids lives, that is their job…So if she or any of them choose not to it’s their loss, I would delete and block…:woman_shrugging:

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Communication is a two way street. I don’t mean begging her to get involved but why can’t you simply send the first message?

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Communication goes both ways.
But if there is no drama, why is it an issue to just let her see the posts

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Post a picture of the kids and tag her
See it opens up communication.

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Talk to her first. She may assume because you changed your number that you dont want them to contact you. But you are allowing her to see the kids on your timeline. She may also not know how to approach it and doesnt want to upset you.

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This is a joke right ? Maybe she wanted to be on fb just to see photos not to talk to them that’s what’s phones are for get over yourself

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It’s Facebook :woman_facepalming:t2: if you want to talk to her you can reach out. She probably just wants to see pics of the kids. Send her a message. Or better yet… call her?

If you already knew she was inconsistent you knew that she wouldn’t reach out right away. You don’t have to have anyone that you do not want to on your social media. If it’s about keeping their family updated my suggestion would be to create a separate page and add those people their. That page can be strictly about the kids.

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Some ppl go on fb just to look. They dont even know how to use fb… Just scroll and look.

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The phone goes both ways. Try and reach out. If she’s reluctant then you know the truth. You can’t expect EVERYONE to wanna see your kids. Sounds crappy but it happens. You do you and be a good momma. Sometimes family isn’t all what it’s said to bs

I’ve added people and never get a message or a like from them. Don’t take it personal. That’s just how Facebook is.

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Lmfao it’s been 3 years since my sons grandmother has even tried to say Hi … but there’s always an abundance of pictures of all the other grandchildren… I dont even bother lol neither do the kids anymore they don’t and haven’t asked about that side of family for about 2 years now

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FB is a way for many to still connect to those that are distant. She may be just looking through photos. She may be nervous about reaching out.
Giving her a gentle nudge or even “permission” that she can use the messenger to speak with the kids or even you may be needed.

Give her time. She probably don’t know how to approach you yet. Mama it’s hard on us Grandma’s, We don’t want to say or do anything wrong. Maybe reach out to her and start up a conversation. If I was her and you did that to me, that would lift a huge weight off my shoulders. Please don’t block her. Too many females cut the other side of the family out. I know, I’m on that side. I’d give anything to meet my grandson. I’m literally in tears writing this to you…

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Im sure she enjoys seeing pictures and updates on them. I would just let it be if she isnt causing any drama

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Maybe she’s just interested in knowing whats going on instead of asking