Should I drop the child support case against my ex?

My daughter’s father called asking if I could please drop the child support case against him because his stimulus check was taken from the state, his driver’s license is suspended, and soon he’ll have a warrant for his arrest. He called the Child Support office and asked what he could do to get his stimulus check back they told him to have me drop the case against him. She’s ten now, and he has never given me a penny nor helped. His parents are the ones who buy her clothes, school supplies, just anything she needs, and have done so since she was born (I appreciate them so much). I have sole custody of her, and the only time he sees her is when she is with his mom. Last year she wanted to join cheer, but it came out to be over $500, and I couldn’t afford it by myself, so I asked him for help, and his response was, “let me see what my dad can do.” I told him I was asking for HIS help, not his father’s. I would’ve asked his dad myself if that were the case. He’s on drugs and hasn’t worked in years; his parents support him. He’s blaming the CS case for not being able to get a job. Part of me feels bad and wants to, but then I would be enabling him as well, and part of me wants him to grown-up, he’s 30 years old and take responsibility for his daughter. He’s bothering me non stop to drop it, and I know, if I do, I’ll still never get his help. I don’t know what to do at this point. She still very much in her life no matter what I do.

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Don’t drop it. I’m in the same situation. Make them responsible for their children. You and the child both deserve it.

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Do not drop that. That money will not go back to him regardless. My personal opinion is he made his bed he can lay in it

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Absolutely DO NOT DROP IT

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Nope. He shouldn’t be a deadbeat. :woman_shrugging:t2:

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His problems are not your problems

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Or he could just have paid his child support to avoid all of that?

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aw. poor guy. getting less drug money cos he has to spend it on those pesky kids.

make him pay.

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Hell no! Leave it. Why let him benifit what is in it for your daughter ? Absolutely nothing

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Hell no…keep the case going and block him…that’s his kid too and he needs to help.

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Hes only got himself to blame dont drop it he needs to grow up

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No you do not drop it!!! And child support wouldn’t tell you or him to have it dropped. He’s playing it to make you feel bad.
He wants his money to go to him instead of his child!
Screw what happens to him he should of looked out for his kid

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He needs to take responsibility. He should learn to grow up…their are consequences…he made his bed…he can lie in it!!! Called being an adult! Get him for harassment if he kewps bothering you or block his number. Karmas a bitch!

Absolutely not!!! My ex throws the same pity party. To bad to sad.

Nope!! He needs to grow up!!

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No. He needs to take responsibility for the child he helped create. Point blank period

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Hell no. He made his bed, now make him lay in it.

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I highly doubt they told him to tell you to drop the case. And he is just mad because he had his money taken I honestly wouldn’t do it because he helped make her! And even after she turns 18 he will have to pay all the back support until it is paid off. Like you said he is 30 He probably won’t ever grow up

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Cut him loose. It’s not like you’re going to see any money from him anyway :woman_shrugging:t3:

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If you don’t tell him to go to hell and stop carrying HIS guilt.