Should I get a DNA test on my daughter if the possible dad doesn't want anything to do with her?

My daughter just turned one in September. The guy who raised her for the first year and was there all through the pregnancy might not be the father as we took a little break right before I got pregnant. The other guy who could possibly be the father denies it all and says there’s no chance he’s the father. The guy who was always by my side knows there’s a possibility of my daughter not being his, and he’s been there every step of the way. My question is. Should I get a DNA test to find out for sure? I believe my kid deserves to know who her father is. But at the same time, one of the possibilities already made it clear he wants nothing to do with her. So should I leave it alone and just let the guy who has been here for the last year continue to be the father figure since no matter what, he’s always supported us. And be the father role model To my daughter while the other guy has had no contact since before my daughter was born daughter just turned one in September. The guy who raised her for the first year and was there all through the pregnancy might not be the father as we took a little break right before I got pregnant. The other guy who could possibly be the father denies it all and says there’s no chance he’s the father. The guy who was always by my side knows there’s a possibility of my daughter not being his, and he’s been there every step of the way. My question is. Should I get a DNA test to find out for sure? I believe my kid deserves to know who her father is. But at the same time, one of the possibilities already made it clear he wants nothing to do with her. So should I leave it alone and just let the guy who has been here for the last year continue to be the father figure. Since no matter what, he’s always supported us. And be the father role model To my daughter while the other guy has had no contact since before my daughter was born

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Just leave it alone especially if the other dude denies this child even if it is his.

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No don’t do it. Leave it alone and take it to your grave

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My advice is get the paternity test if dude that doesn’t want anything to do with her happens to in fact be biological father he can give up his right and daddy figure may adopt if y’all are open to it… She’s only one so I would definitely don’t now

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I feel like you owe it to your child and both her possible fathers to know the truth if the guy your with is any kind of man then he will still love your daughter and continue to raise her with you …

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unless there turns out to be a medical reason to know, don’t do it. she has a dad, he wants to be there.

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Just leave it be. If hes wanting to step up and be her dad, then let him.

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I would have to myself, I’d need to know in my own mind but I would keep it secret to myself lol

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Yeah, I’d do it for medical reasons. You might need to know if certain diseases are genetic one day.

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I would say for medic purposes I would do you know in advance. But seeing has a dad I wouldn’t bother just keeping it between you and the guy who stepped up to be the father.

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Take the test, you never know what the future entails!! ANYTHING could happen… Cover ups always get uncovered… Dont lie to your child

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If you want to be sure just do it but since he doesn’t want no part in her life I would just let it be! The guy that’s been in her life since day one is her father and wants to be regardless then let him! Just bc he might not be her biological father doesn’t mean he’s not her father! DNA doesn’t determine a child’s parent, the love and being there does!

No. She has her dad.

It seems that you know the answer your self. But I understand your concern. To your daughter I know it will mean nothing to her. I have a sperm donor and than I have a father. I didn’t know until I was about 11 and it was a confusing transition and when I was old enough and actually talked to my real father I’m so glad my mom didn’t tell me sooner or that I ever met him. My “father” was there since I was about 1-2 and was amazing. I didn’t need to have anyone else. Specially someone who didn’t want me or stay around to know me. I know my mom was protecting me from him specially since he wanted know part. I think having someone there who wants and is supportive of her is better than her knowing a man who will bounce in and out of her life.

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The title of father is a gift not a right. There is a man in her life who has earned that title and thats all that matters.

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Blood doesn’t make a father. Someone who sticks around and is supportive of you and her is a father.

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Your seriously even asking this…

Yeah should’ve got tested and when she was born!

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Get a DNA test. Your child deserves to know where she came from even if the person doesn’t want anything to do with her. PLUS, what if she becomes ill later and the Dr needs to know family medical history? You should know at LEAST who he is. He doesn’t have to be involved.

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I guess if you want to know thats ok but a dad is someone who is there day in and always loving her so it sounds like she already has that.