Should I go after child support?

My ex lost it and kicked us out because I found some proof he was attempting to cheat, and asked a friend if I could rent an extra bedroom in her house so my ex could go to independent and marriage therapy and we could try to fix it all. (I chose to leave, I’m still on the lease, but it wasn’t worth the safety risk to stay) He considered this “slander” and told me I’m not allowed to speak with anyone he knows anymore. He has a record of domestic violence, no police calls, but DHS and cps are both involved. He offered me $75/week in privately-paid child support. He’s bailed on two payments already and only pays when I ask him over and over. Come to find out; his mother informed me he’s paying $618/month to his prior ex for their son, who he sees five days a week. He hasn’t seen our daughter in a month and has only given me $150 to date. He threatened to take our daughter if I go after him for formal child support because “he doesn’t need my help to raise her”. She’s never been away from me for a single night, and he’s a hands-off father who’s very unstable and not safe. Should I go after child support? Will I even get anything if he’s already paying $618 for a different child?

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IMO you need to establish custody and go after Child Support

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Yep take him to court. With his violent history he won’t get her full time from you.

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Yes you will get child support and he has to prove you unfit.

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And to get visitation is another whole court case even make sure you have everything every document etc

You need to get full custody of your child first of all so he can’t just take your child THEN you need to get all the info agaisnt him and file restraining orders. I wouldn’t worry so much about the support than the safety of both you and your child.

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Go for child support, get an order of protection that covers you and the judge can outline a temp custody agreement in that. So that way the only contact he can even have is about the child any other contact will be a violation.

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File for custody and child support. And yes your daughter gets supported the same as any other children

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yes go after him and get child support so that if she doesn’t pay you will always get back child support and its being totaled. the other childs support might go down to him having another. but its not your fault your just looking out for your child also

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File for child support it’s not a personal move it’s business and professional. Make sure you file a motion in family court for full custody

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I’d go ahead and do it. It looks better for the person that files than the defendant. So if he files it’d look bad on your part and he’d have a better chance… personal experience

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Go after support! Be on the safe side.

For the benefit of your child you should have some support. Regardless, of how much he pays for another child I’m sure they’ll give his other child an amount of support too. But always put some type of retraining order on him if need to for the safety of your child. Good luck!

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File for emergency custody and support. He threatened to take your child.

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you need to get an attorney who will advise you of your legal rights who will look at his record get you an order of protection and help you get child support so you can have a place of your own and your child can have their own bedroom it’s only fair

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Yes go after support

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Child support and custody are 2 different court orders. Did they not get y’all to come to an agreement when you signed divorce papers?

Go for child support they won’t take her from you unless you’re a risk to her

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Yep go for custody and support.

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Do it! Go get full custody and get your child support! What he pays his ex doesn’t matter. My ex pays like 1000 a month between my daughter and his other child… Do what is necessary for your child :heart: good luck and stay safe

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