Should I let my childs dads sister in her life?

My child is five years. Her “dad” is no good, has never tried to be in her life and has no rights to her. So-called dad’s sister has reached out several times wanting to see my daughter. She is very sweet, and nothing like her brother, I let her be around her before when she was about 2. She is wanting to be in my daughter’s life now and has been wanting to for a while, but I always shut her out. I feel bad in a way because she did nothing wrong, but I also don’t want to confuse my daughter or have people in and Out her life. Would you let the sister (aunt) see your daughter? She has agreed to not bring her brother or any other family of his/her around. I feel like it would be nice to have at least one person from her dad’s side in her life since she doesn’t know him, but I’m just confused about what to do. She also doesn’t know who her dad is or anything. So I’m not even sure we would give the sister a name as an aunt. What’s your opinion?

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Coming from an aunt… let that baby see her aunt… nothing like an aunts love my nieces and nephews mean the absolute world to me and I’ve been in their lives since they were all born

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Defiantly she’s family :slightly_smiling_face: my nephew sees us but not his dad (my brother) it doesn’t confuse him it shows we love him and care x

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Let her visit. I would not let her take her anywhere or take pictures.

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The more people that love your child the better, especially family. My daughter is now a teenager and has a decent relationship with her aunt on her dads side. It’s much better than the one she has with him.

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i agree with dawn let her come to your house and visit do not let her take her

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It takes a village, mama. We all need all the love we can get, especially the kiddos. Don’t inadvertently punish her for the “sins” of her brother. :purple_heart:

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Keeping them away will
Only cause resentment later. If nothing else let her see your daughter while your there set so guidelines about who she is and what family info will Be shared. I would not let her take her anywhere especially until you know if you can trust her

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I would give her a chance. My brother is a worthless POS. I am best friends with his kids mother. I love them and have helped them through out their lives because he never did.

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Yes!!! Why cut your daughter off from family. Kids need all kinds of support and aunties should have a chance. It takes a village.

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Your child is only going to hold it against YOU when she finds out she had family wanting to see her and you were the cause of it not happening!! Let your child have her family!

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Express your concern and see what she has to say. Go from there.

I took guardianship of my niece her dad my brother is(the youngest of my siblings)and abusive to alot of ppl parents included and if I hadn’t stepped in she would be in the same situation or in foster care I am an aunt I treat her like my own till treatment for both parents I go by court orders but she is safe and doing good all kids need family be it urs or his.but if u have rules make sure the(adults understand and supervise them until ur comfortable with it aunts grandmas cousins are an important part of their lives

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I let her and I would let her call her aunt because that’s what she is. No reason to deprive the child or aunt of having a relationship.

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Coming from a Aunt and Mom who has had some ghetto family. I would let her, she is fine with keeping her brother away. The more positive people a kid has in their life the better.

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The more family in your daughter’s life the better.

Give her a chance…set boundaries but remember…your child will grow up one day! If you want a relationship you need to start finding a way to tell her the truth. Teenagers ask questions and judge us accordingly.

I went through something like this… we decided to let her see them… and we introduced her as a friend then as the kids got older they started calling her aunt like they do the rest of the people who are close to them…

I get where alot of people on this post are coming from but I seen one comment that kinda got to me I was never mad or upset or held it against my parents for keeping me from certain family members. I was kept away as a kid and I’m not mad or upset I never was because I always knew my parents did the best for me and for some reason keeping me away from these people was what was best, so I understood because they taught me to be understanding. I did get a taste of their reasoning though, when I turned 21 I decided to go see these family members (no one tried to stop me) for myself and it turned out that everyone was right being kept from them was the best thing for me because they were scum and screwed me over big time. They didn’t seem like it at first but after a few months and alot of bull I realized that I owed my parents so much for not letting these people into my life. In the end it’s your decision what you wanna do but I say take it slow and be very cautious.

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Ask no photos be taken or put on her social media.
That way dad can’t see updates ect an decide he wants to see the daughter after all