Should I let my exes son visit my house?

Ma’am that is not a child thats a young man dad has no say even if he doesn’t hang out at the house it could simply be him picking up his little brother

2 Likes

He’s 23 and yall are divorced. Talking about wrath

1 Like

He is an adult, this is where communication would be a huge factor… the child needs to fully understand the consequences of his choices. Going against his fathers wishing could cause a diversion between him and his father.
My guess would be, he hasn’t had anyone to explain the possible outcome to him, judging from his fathers behavior and the way he handles situations.

It’s your house. And he is an adult. You ex has zero say.

4 Likes

Why is he even having a say, do what tf you want and if his son wants to visit who cares
fuck what he says

Don’t tell him. :woman_shrugging: my daughters dad has another daughter that is an adult now. Half the time she comes to town she just wants to see her sister. So she comes to my house to visit her or picks her up to go hang out for a while. We just don’t mention it to dad. If little sis says something to him, I won’t lie, but that hasn’t happened and we’ve been doing this for about 5 years now.

5 Likes

My (old) step mother and father divorced when I was 18. I have a family of my own now. She’s still my step mother no matter what as they began dating when I was 9. I don’t think it’s out of bounds at all. I think the father is insecure and that is absolutely not your problem. If my partner and I were to separate - I hope he would support my relationship with his children since I am the mother of their sibling

5 Likes

I say the father needs to Stop the B.S. regardless of what is up with the adults let the kids have a relationship with the parents unless one starts to try to prevent the other from checking on minors however that’s not the case here so that dad needs to stop treating everyone like this and accept that the kids want to all have a relationship with each other and if he’s causing trouble go to the police and document everyone trouble with him and show the police and also try to do your best to not ingage him either try to always calm the situation down and that but always document everything and go to the police but at the end of the Day keep the relationship with them kids and end it with him and let him learn from his mistakes and tell him they want to be here because of this well not to him but to police when they ask

None of his business, carry on and let the kids have fun.

1 Like

The young man is an adult. He’s just doing what feels wonderful to him! Let it be! Dad needs to step back!

1 Like

I don’t see anything wrong with that. He’s family and will be forever. He’s not your boss do what you want to do

Ummm. You’re an adult, the son is 23, he can go to your house if he wants. He doesn’t have to see his dad if he doesn’t want to. Sounds like dad is trying to force a relationship with his son that wants nothing to do with him. Don’t support your exes choice. He’s being manipulative. Tell him to fucking suck it and let your bonus son come over still.

If you are posing the question here, you must be having some reservations. While your ex has no authority whatsoever over his adult son, he does have rights and responsibilities regarding his and your minor son.

If there is any chance at all of a romantic relationship developing between you and this young man (or if not, but his father or others might start suspecting or falsely accuse you of it anyway), that could end up opening a big can of worms, maybe even a custody battle with your ex, and other problems you really don’t want in your or your son’s lives.

I would make sure he sees his little brother somewhere besides your home, if you and he are the only adults there. (If he doesn’t feel comfortable going to his Dad’s to see his little brother, perhaps another family member’s house or somewhere neutral, with other adults around).

1 Like

He is an adult. Your ex has no as you are not together anymore. Siblings should be allowed to know each other. The only time I wouldn’t allow it is if the older sibling could be a potential danger or the younger ones didn’t want the relationship. Do it. He’s just trying to be controlling.

1 Like

Fuck the ex…continue to do what is best for that young man and your children

His sons an adult it shouldn’t matter and that is his brother he’s seeing :joy:

If his son is 23 he is an adult and able to make decisions. And you as well are an adult and able to make your own decisions. If you have a good relationship with him and he wants to see his brother, why not?

1 Like

Ummm he’s 23 and can make his own decisions … hell yes let him visit ! I think that’s awesome !:blue_heart:

4 Likes

I don’t think you’re doing anything wrong at all. If you have a relationship and consider each other family, what are you doing wrong? You would allow anyone else that you see in this manner the same exact way. Your ex is being very childish and he needs to reevaluate the way he reacts to situations.

2 Likes

That boy is a man, 23, you are his FAMILY!!! I say let him come over and be with the loving family whom he obviously loves, including the new little kids! Great big brothers are always special even if there’s no blood relation!

3 Likes