Should I see someone else?

I know, as a mother, my kids come first. I love them; they are 5,2,10months. I was with the father of my kids back and forth and finally, after suffering for years…I decide to leave him for good it been one year since…would it look wrong if I begin a relationship with someone? The guys know me when I had my first kid. We stop talking, and he says he still wants to be with me after having two more kids? I know she is my decision, but I don’t know if my family would take it wrong or tell me that it’s too soon that I should worry about my kids…

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A year seems reasonable if and only if your heart feels ready. I recommend stepping into it slowly, but sure? Why the heck not. Unless he’s got a history of abusing kids or partners.

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As long as you always make sure your kids are first and protect them, no I dont think it is too soon

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It’s about when you feel ready, no one else. It’s perfectly ok and healthy to move on and date someone new. Just put your children first always, and make sure if you’re looking for something serious that he is too and is a good match for them as well. Take your time, enjoy yourself, you deserve happiness too.

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I left my daughter’s sperm donor when I was 5 months pregnant he cheated on me and kept with doing drugs plus he was a deadbeat dad to his other kids and I said he wouldn’t have any part in her life… I took 2 years and stayed single wasnt looking to date was fine by myself until I met an amazing man who now she calls daddy and we have a little one on the way so… I think you’re fine to date whenever you’re ready :blush:

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I see no problem with it. Protect your kids heart with a ferocity stronger than you seek to protect your own. :heart: you know what’s best for them.

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There’s nothing wrong with dating. I’d just take it slow mingling him with your kids at first

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There is no problem with being with someone after a year. If he accepts your children then you should go for it. Maybe wait a little before he meets the children

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Just take it slow hun it’s your life you deserve happiness too just because your a mom does not change that best wishes

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Each to there own I have been seperated a year I don’t want a relationship but I saying that I’ve not really connected with anyone go for it will never know if U don’t try

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A year is plenty of time… just protect your babies and take things slow.

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I left my ex last January, got with my boyfriend a month later and we’re about to celebrate a year together. People talked shit and assumed things but my daughter witness a kind man courting her mom, treating her like a princess and we didn’t make it official to her till she told me she wanted my boyfriend to be my boyfriend. We let things develop at her level and made her a part of our happiness. Because my daughter is my world, if he wanted a part of it she came with it. I didn’t care what anyone else thought as long as she was good. And they have a great bond, she calls him her bestfriend.

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If you personally feel ready and make sure that whoever you start seeing knows that your kids come first, by all means, feel free to date. It’s nobody’s decision but yours.

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Why is there an angry react?
Sheeze. Guess mums cant go get her cheese on.

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If you’re ready then by all means momma no crime in dating best luck to you :heart:

You have been single a year but have mourned him enough years allready! It will be your heartbreak or great relationship, but either way is worth it!

No I was in an emotionally abusive relationship for 5 years and my ex left me at 5 months pregnant. I met and unexpectedly started dating my current bf at 6 months pregnant after being set up by his mother who I’ve known since I was little. He is raising my baby as his own and he has been there for me since the day I met him. My oldest son (14) loves and trusts him and my bf sets an amazing example of how to treat a lady. He has 2 kids of his own as well. Life doesn’t always go according to plan. As long as your children are treated well that’s what matters!

I got left 3 months pregnant with my 2nd child and i was with their dad for almost 9 years and almoat a year later I started slowly seeing this guy who was patient with me and now we have been together almost 4 years and have a baby on the way. if you feel ready go for it!

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Its been a year girl you have had plenty of time to self reflect! Get get him! And screw what anyone else thinks!

I’ve been single a year and am interested in dating and theres nothing wrong with that if you are ready. I am just still recovering and hesitant to trust someone and be willing to date. If I meet the right guy I think I’ll give it a shot. Its up to you.