Should I walk away from my relationship?

I would talk to him first. If he has custody he shouldn’t be paying her child support. The fact that he is shows that he does have a heart. Maybe he doesn’t understand how you feel.

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I wish I could say stay but move on. Things get worse harder as children get older. You could talk but it is obvious he is taking care of her first and that child. Sad

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Sounds like he needs to go back to court to get child support fixed. There’s no reason he should be paying her if the kid lives with him.

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He shouldn’t be giving her ANYTHING anymore.
And talk with him about it first.

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You need to be talking to your husband about why you are frustrated. After that weight your options. If you stay, talk to a lawyer about him paying child support on a child he has under his roof.

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If you have ask about your relationship. You know the answer!!

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Makes no sense why shes getting the child support if hes got the custody…should be the other way around

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If he has custody why is he paying child support ? Judge’s don’t do that .

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Not much information here …do you work ? Does he pay the rent/mortgage? Who actually pays the bills ? Does he give you money each week for food? Does he give you an allowance? If you don’t work he’s providing for everything or do you expect an allowance and then for him to pay for it all ? Lots of missing information…why does he pay child support when you and him have custody? The best thing you can do is talk to your husband

He shouldn’t be paying child support if he has custody of the kid. The mother should be pay child support to him if he has custody.

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Unless it’s back pay for child support I don’t get why he is paying child support to her. Do you have legal custody of that child or did you guys just have them living with you now? If that’s the case and there’s a court order for child support he still has to pay it until the order of custody and support gets changed. Either way you need to sit down and talk to him about it all and then decide. No one here can tell you what to do you need to make these decisions after talking to him. Why isn’t he looking after his kids with your joint kids? For me imo that would not fly at all! Or is it just the one child of yours he isn’t buying stuff for? There’s too much gray area in your story.

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Why does he pay his ex child support if ya’ll are raising the child?

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Hate to be the one who asks, do you have proof he’s paying her support? Or does it come from an account you don’t have access to etc?.. that just sounds really odd, especially to then not pay or do anything for his children in the current relationship with yourself.

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He works, provides food for his family, and provides for his children…I’m not understanding the issue?

Does he owe back support? Because I am not understanding why he paying Child Support; I would ask why he feels its ok to pay for one but not the other 2 for sure, if its because he doesn’t se a need to or other irrelevant thing then leave

Understanding is the best thing in the world. If you love him, try and work it out first. If you can’t develop an understanding, then maybe it’s best to not waste each others time anymore. Move on.

Why is he paying her child support for a child you have custody of? How long after they split did you guys meet? I’m only asking incase he is doing it out of guilt

You definitely should be talking to him about this, not asking for opinions from people you don’t know. We still don’t have the full story, so you will get every kind of answer doing it this way. It sounds like you’re in a screwed up situation, but I feel like this should have been discussed long before now. Express your concerns and feelings to him and go from there. It could be a simple misunderstanding, or it could be a major red flag. You shouldn’t leave without at least trying to talk it out if you love each other.

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Yes I think your to nice
Talk it out if you love him talk to him and let him know how you feel it’s not the kids fault and his ex should not get child support stop shutdown and tell him that money needs to go to the kids if he don’t do it then leave and get child support for the kids because that’s not right I believe kids are first and the ex lost her place she needs to backup

first he needs to file a modification to the child support to terminate it if he has the kid. second you pay the bills and support your children and yourself. his whole income doesn’t go to child support. where is the rest of his money going? if he is treating his child better than yours then yes, leave. that’s not healthy for a blended family.