Should married men have female friends?

Hey, everyone out there. Quick question. I don’t believe it’s ok for a married man to have a girl. That’s a friend and hang out alone at her place. What are your guy’s thoughts on this? He knows that it’s something I’m not comfortable with. We were separated, and he met this “friend” while we were separated. I just wanted some other people’s opinions as he says because I’m a Christian, that’s why I have this problem.

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I wouldn’t be ok with it at all.

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If you don’t trust him you shouldn’t be together with him.

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In that specific case hell no

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I’m Athiest and would not be okay with it. He is trying to gaslight you to make you feel like you are crazy for not liking it.

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What does Being a Christian have anything to do with this

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I just… I feel like… how much more obvious could he be

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If it was a childhood friend… but someone new. Ask him u you can have a new guy friend?theres at least emotional connections…

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I think it’s okay for a man to have a female friend but hanging out at each other’s houses with the spouse is a big no for me. Wanna go to brunch? Sure. Super Bowl party? Why not. Just nothing alone.

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Every marriage is different but in my marriage no that’s not ok. That’s just asking for trouble. He has female friends but he hangs out with them in a group setting. I have male friends that again I hang out with in a group setting. Why would you set yourself up for trouble is always what I say. But to each their own.

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Nope!! Especially since he met her while he was on the fence with you. Nope. If it was a lifelong friend that he had and I was able to come over her house with him and hang out and we all hung out and did things then yes as long as he was never left alone with her. if you ask him if you guys can hang out together or go out for dinner together so you can meet her and he says no then there’s your answer.

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Just because a man is married doesn’t mean he can’t have female friends and hang out with him I could see if he’s been friends with her for years and wants to go to her house alone and hang out but just meeting the female friend and want to hang out at her house that’s not okay

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Were they friends before you got married.

My best friend is a man and comes over when my husband is AND isnt home :woman_shrugging:

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My best friend is a male, married to someone else, if you don’t trust him than you shouldn’t be with him

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Being a “Christian” has jack shit to do with being insecure

If he met her while you were seperated then no way…he is trying to have the best of both worlds and that is definitely not okay. And he is gas lighting you because he wants you to think your crazy and wrong when you’re not.

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Um no, he meet her while u were separated…that is a big red flag!

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If they were friends before yall met then no it wouldn’t be an issue … but you saying he met her while yall were separated. Baby girl … he was probably screwing her while yall were separated and probably still is. He’d have to cut ties with that asap rocky or i would be out the door. Christian or not … you definitely don’t have to look like a :clown_face: and that’s exactly what he is doing love. Nope nope fuck nope.

I’m sorry but it’s a little toxic to say someone can’t have a friend that’s the opposite sex without a valid reason. Was he seeing said woman? She’s a woman btw not just “a female”. Or, do you just not trust him? In that case, leave :woman_shrugging:t2:

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I don’t mind my guy having friends that are women. I would be worried if he said I couldn’t have guy friends but he can have friends that are women. That would be a deal breaker for me. I have been down that road and it’s not fun.