Should we start fresh or stay?

Need opinions/advice: at what point do you decide it’s time to start over and fresh? The last 2.5 years have been the hardest in our families’ life. We moved five times before my child turned one year old and then finally got into our new home just to be told a few months later that our son has been diagnosed with a rare autoimmune disease that has altered life as we know it. He needs constant care around the clock, and the house we currently live in now was supposed to serve as our “forever home,” but now it has been filled with the biggest heartache my heart has known, and now I’m considering selling and starting brand new. The problem is that if we sell and start over new, it would also have its own set of challenges; moving is not easy, especially with kids as you guys all probably know. Has anyone here got fed up with their unfortunate and decided that they needed to start all over to build new memories?

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Have your house blessed or saged. :heart:

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Yes, you have had negative things happen there, but what positives have you found there that you won’t find anywhere else? Your son was diagnosed, and I am hoping you became closer as a family. Try and find the good in it.

I’m sorry you’re going thru some tough stuff but you can’t just move any time something upsets you. Your children need stability. And they rely on you to provide that.

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How old is your child. They need stability and routine. If he has health problems you can’t keep up rooting them

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If runni g from problems and difficulties is easier than yes. Or embrace that you found out the news, and its sooner than later and do everything yo make the best of it. Running never solves anything. Focus on making new better memories and be an adult and parent. Dont teach kids run from problems.

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Yep I just found out my babies heart stopped beating yesterday I’m done with where we are and feel the need to pack up and move

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Does the new house affect his disease? Like is it not safe? If not, no reason to move again.

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Do NOT make a big decision while experiencing such grief! I speak from experience. If your son is not already at John Hopkins get him there, also speaking from experience (I was unable to walk on my own and in so much pain I wanted to die from a rare autoimmune disease John Hopkins drs put me on new medications and I am me again).
No big changes while grieving/depressed! Best Docs in the country!

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Maybe search around and see what you can find, for a while. If its meant to be, you will find the perfect place and moving will fall into place.

I packed everything and moved my kids to a small town from a huge city. Best decision of my life. Do what your heart tells you to.

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“Running away from your problems is a race you’ll never win, so just face them head on, and overcome them.”

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You could move, but you would just be taking your problems with you. The house has nothing to do with it and moving could cause some financial burdens and kids dont always like changing their schools and friends.

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We bought a home & our daughter was diagnosed with autism. I felt this way because I will be driving a hour and a half away a couple times a week for therapy she needs, but honestly my daughter loves our home and I would rather live in our home and drive constantly than to move her all around. Give it time dont rush to moving right away give it time I did and I’m glad we havnt sold our home. Goodluck❤

“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.” Save the money to move and change the house. You have to face the issue. My mom was like this for so long and nothing changed. I’ve been to NINE high schools and some of them twice. Nothing changed my mom’s situation just because of a new scenery.

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“Wherever you go, there you are.” Moving won’t solve your problems. Seek therapy for yourself to figure out why you think moving will change anything & join a support group for parents of children with similar challenges.

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You can’t run from your problems it’s not the houses falt get counseling

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When you move you take your problems with you. Stay where you are and stay grounded, find some stability.

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Wherever you go you take yourself with you. Maybe accept that this is what you’ve got and make where you are as happy and beautiful as you can. Maybe this house is where you learned how to be strong and resourceful and how to survive.

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What’s moving going to do??? No offense but unless he’s gotten better or passes away there’s no reason to move because of “bad memories” because if he’s still sick, they will just follow you to the new place you go to.

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