Should you know your SO's phone password?

Fan question? How does everyone feel about passwords on your so phone? I have been with my husband for 11 years, and we have had issues where I have found things in his phone, so he puts a password on his phone, so I can’t get in to it! And when I ask to see his phone he tells me no I don’t need to look at his phone? Anyone else go through this?

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He is likely hiding something. Not cool.

Im sorry, but if he has nothing to hide, then why is it an issue?!?!?!?!??

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I know my husband’s. I don’t even have a lock on my phone. It shouldn’t be a big deal unless there is something he is hiding from you. I’d say its a red flag.

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Yeah…thats a hell no. My husband and myself do not have passwords on our phones and we can go through each other’s phones if we ever wanted…we don’t because we have no need too, but if one of us needs to make a call, or look something up quick we use each other’s phones🤷‍♀️

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No trust equals no relationship. I’m no expert but it sounds like your husband is hiding something.

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We don’t have passwords on ours and we know each others social media passwords

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If that’s not a red flag then idk what is.

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Nope no issues with phones here my man uses my phone all the time I’ll take him to the store if mines almost dead. Should be no reason to hide stuff

if u cant trust him the relationship is over hes clearly screwing around if u found stuff already and now he put a password so you cant my ex of 8 years and 2 years both did that shit they both were screwing around

Been through it with my ex. He was cheating if you’ve found stuff before it’s most likely still happening.

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My husband and I remind me of a really old couple. We literally use the same passwords because we forget them too easily and it feels like a lifetime retrieving the password :joy: we’ve had the same passwords for over 8 years now. But if he’s that uncomfortable in my opinion seems a little sketchy

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We don’t have passwords on our phones

I never think about my husband’s phone… he’s 100% trustworthy.

I know my fiancé’s password but have absolutely no reason to go through his phone he has mine as well we trust each other

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I can see both sides to this. I had to have a password on my phone because we’d send messages (about private work). The password was because of little fingers getting ahold if my phone and deleting phone numbers and important messages. However, of the person that I was with wanted to see my phone, is unlock it and hand it to him. I never had a password just to keep someone off of my phone because of cheating or anything like that. If you have to hide it then you shouldn’t be doing it.

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I’m sorry but that is a big red flag. My partner has a password on his phone but I know it and I can go thru it anytime. I do not have a password but I have in the past and he has always know it and can go thru my phone whenever. If your partner isn’t letting you then he is most likely hiding something.

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sorry that’s a flag to me honestly. we know each other’s passwords… we don’t go in each other’s phones unless we need to use them, but we never have a reason to tell each other no. i’d say if he’s getting upset and won’t let you go on his phone ever that there’s probably something he’s hiding

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Sit down with him and discuss why you feel like you need to get into his phone and let him discuss why he feels like you don’t need to be in it. There may be something going on, or it may be that he wants to be trusted and doesn’t want his phone gone through. I had a passcode on my phone and my ex never knew it nor was he ever allowed to be in my phone. It has nothing to do with being unfaithful since I was 100% loyal. I simply didn’t want him in my phone, had conversations with family members I didn’t want him seeing, etc.

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I had the same problem at first with my SO 8 years ago when we started dating turns out he was messing around. I said bye he came back. Now we have open communication I have his password for his stuff he has mine for my stuff and for us it works It helped build trust back between us and he’s been faithful ever since… but thats just what works for us everyone is different

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