Sometimes I feel like my baby doesn't like me: Thoughts?

I feel like a failure. I dont think my baby boy likes me all that much… Sometimes i can get him to sleep but other times I just can’t… Like I had fed him a little bit ago and burped him, but sometimes when I hold him he’ll act like hes still hungry but once I try feeding him he’ll start crying again and I cant get him to calm down. But when my mother in law holds him she can put him straight to sleep, which I dont hate her for of course- I’m just jealous and wish I could have the same affect on him being his mother…

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If your stresses ect your baby feels that try calming down then holding him ect :slight_smile: good luck momma

A baby can feel your emotions and anxiety. If you are anxious or feeling nervous the baby can sense it and react the same. Try taking deep breaths an relax before snuggling him. Feel your love for him and go with that. He will feel the change.

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Babies can since stress and when your anxious just keep calm when holding him dont get irritated.

Don’t stress. Take a deep breath and stay super positive. It’s hard but they can sense it. And sometimes they just need a change of person. As much as we love our parents we don’t always want to be with them either lol 

He could have colic, he could have silent reflux, he could just be being a typical baby, there’s absolutely no rule book and they certainly don’t follow a pattern. Please do not feel like this because he will pick up the vibes. He loves you, you are his safe place don’t doubt yourself mumma. You’re doing an amazing job. xx

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Your MIL has much more experience. Hold your baby a bit more and talk softly telling you love. Hold him snuggly.

Sometimes, it’s hard to differentiate between a newborn cries. I have a total of 3 kids. My youngest is 3 in half weeks. My oldest is 10 and my middle is 4. I’m readjusting to newborn life. It’s common to feel the way you feel. Even after I change my baby, feed him, burp him, swaddle him, hold him, etc. He will still cry and scream. You’re not a failure! Babies will do this. They do pick up on stress out vibes. I always tell myself, he will be fine. As bad as it sounds, I let him cry a little bit especially if I met his most basic needs (change, eat. Burp.) Then I reevaluate. Gas? Colic? Needing to be held? He sometimes likes me singing to him, so I do that. You’re doing a great job!!

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Your mil has had more practice with babies.
Being a mom with a new baby is a very hard adjustment. Your baby loves you more than anyone else in the rest of their world.
Just wait until the terrible 2s hit and they start hating you for everything.
You can get through this, momma!

Listen to me very carefully you are doing your best job as a momma. Kids are always much worse for their parents, especially their moms. Feel blessed that someone can rock your baby to sleep. Hang in there it will get better. Being a mom means constantly feeling a mix between guilt, not being good enough and stress. You got this momma

You can’t over stress. If you over think it your baby will feel the nervous energy and feed off of it. It makes them uncomfortable too if momma isn’t ok. You do the best you can. The best kind of parent is the one who gives their heart. I know you love your little one, just dont stress!

If tour breastfeeding him he can prob smell your milk. My little man foumd that distracting for the first couple of months until i stopped leaking milk.hang in there momma you are his world he adores you

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When my boy was just a baby he was the same way with my mom and my sister in law. I was a first time mom and he had colic. I didnt even really know how to burp him properly I was so nervous/scared of hurting him and he would cryyyyyyy all. The. Damn. Time. But when my mom would rock him he would fall right asleep … it just happens… lots of reasons babies cry. It’s their only way of communication. Now I cant get my boy off my hip. Hes a real mommas boy. Lol hes now almost 3 …

He can feed of Ur energy. Try to be calm and relaxed while ur handling him.

I learned in psychology the only instincts a mother has is to protect. All other things will come. Your mom in law just has more practice. Its ok honey its nothing personal. You’ll learn and then one day you’ll be amazed you ever had trouble

Babies sense stress …please talk to your dr about how you feel you may having a bit of post partum depression.

My mom has always been better with my kids and getting them to sleep as babies. I attribute it to her having a whole lot more experience and also she loves just sitting and snuggling…I am stressing over all the housework and school and thing that need to be done and also I fidget a lot lol. Heck with our second my husband is better at getting her to sleep for the same reasons aside from experience. Don’t sweat it, just try to relax and enjoy it, and eventually it’ll get easier. Your baby loves you :heart:

He can feel your anxiety!!! Also while he burped maybe he still has gas that needs released?

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He can feel your vibes luv be calm and relaxed hun

My daughter didn’t like to be held much as a newborn. She was happier on her own. She had reflux and tummy issues. Now she’s almost 5 years old and won’t leave me alone for a second lol…each baby is different and they will grow and change so much.