The father of my child constantly said I reminded him of his ex: Advice?

I have a weird question. So, I was with my child’s father for three years. During these three years, he constantly told me I was doing stuff that reminded him of his ex. Just little things, like how I was doing my makeup or how I dressed. (We look very similar, so I couldn’t control that I looked like her). Anyways, I asked in the beginning what happened between them. He said, “she packed everything & left while I was at work. I don’t know why.” Then, later on, his story changed “she was cheating,” then it was “she didn’t like I had a crappy job & couldn’t afford expensive stuff.” Now its something else… My question is, is it weird that I want to ask her what happened?

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Oh I’d definitely ask. He apparently can’t keep his story straight and you deserve to know. If you are still with him that is.

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His ex shouldn’t be a factor in your relationship. Leave it alone.

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Sounds to me he is stuck on her and is making excuses for why they aren’t together…

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I asked my husbands ex wife… just because I wanted to know her side.

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If you feel the need to ask her you need to re-evaluate your relationship

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Not weird at all just ask her!

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If y’all aren’t together why does it matter​:joy::joy::woman_facepalming:t2::woman_shrugging:t2:

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What’s the matter with him. No wonder she left him

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You should have before you married him!

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I’d ask… I always ask the ex what happened cause I’ve been labeled the crazy ex before and it’s always fair to know both sides… Once I found out I was dating a sociopath with a fake identity his ex wife #4 found me because I was about to be wife #7… And warned me of his true identity and I background check everyone now and talk to their family friends and ex’s… I might have trust issues but you can never be too careful

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He’s insecure about you dressing up to go or do someone else! He’s comparing you to her because that’s what happened when she left she would get dressed up and go cheat. Talk to him about it it’s his way of dealing. Have him explain everything to you and let him know that you may wanna seek her side of the story since he keeps comparing. But he’s scared you’re gonna do the same. So just talk to him he has a lot he is holding inside. He will feel better and let him know what your intentions are. If you care enough to know just ask. What’s the worst that can happen. Guys that were burned by a chick will always hold that in their heart when then meet or start with someone knew. He needs to work on some self issues!! Hood luck.

So you’re not with him anymore?? What difference does it make? It’s weird that you stayed and had kids with him, but I wouldn’t be the psycho girlfriend bothering her about it. He obviously can’t keep his story straight about her so?

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He was attracted to you because you reminded him of her. He also hates you because his fantasy didn’t work and (I bet) she’s moved on and has a happy life without him. Don’t bother asking her, he will accuse you of going behind his back.

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Curiosity killed the cat!

Unless you feel he’s up to no good and your trust isn’t there. I would leave it alone.

I guess its normal to have the curiosity to want to know ? :thinking: but it might backfire if u ask. Lots of girls will use it to their advantage and laugh at you for asking. Sooo ?

He’s playing the victim and he’s triangulating you with the ex. It’s a form of manipulation. Run.

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Nah I’m sure it’s a combination of what hes told you and his explanation… she wasnt happy in the relationship (probably fought over finances) and cheated on him then one day while he was at work she packed up and left. That’s what it sounds like to me. I wouldn’t ask why be stuck on the past instead of moving on to the future?

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Whatever happened between them shouldn’t be an issue anymore. He needs to stop talking about her, and u need to stop asking questions. Shes an ex for a reason, just leave her in the past, focus on the present, and look towards to future.

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You would have a better chance at the truth is you asked her. You will find out why she was “crazy”

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