The father of the kids I babysit for called CPS on me because of a lie: Advice?

I need some advice on how to handle this situation I’m in with the parents of the children I babysit for. Some background, I’ve been in child care for 15 years, recently the daycare I worked for closed, so I started babysitting a few of the kids; I watch two brothers that are 3 and 5 and an older girl who is eight and only comes after school. Recently the father of the two boys sent me a text cussing me up one side and down the other, saying that I need to feed his kids when they’re hungry because of a situation that had happened the day before. It had been the girl’s birthday, and her mom kindly brought cupcakes, which I was obviously going to save for when she got to my house after school. I provide snacks and meals for the children, and we have a schedule that we go by for those; as I was cooking lunch this day, the 5 yr old decided that he wanted the cupcake, and he didn’t want to wait. I wouldn’t let him have a cupcake. I tried to explain we had to wait for the birthday girl, and lunch was almost ready, which led to a fit and honestly nothing uncommon for a child that age, he got over it pretty quickly and ate lunch like normal, and the day went on as normal but had later told the dad that he was mad at me because he had been hungry and I wouldn’t give him food… All pretty common, I nicely explained it to Dad, and he never replied. The next morning I woke up to a mutual friend of ours sending me screenshots of this rant the dad had put on FB about me neglected their kids by withholding food, and he said he had reported me to CPS, oddly enough, the mom still brought the kids that morning I explained the situation to her, she apologized and said she had made her husband take the post down and begged me to not stop watching the kids. So I blew it off… Today, a caseworker from cps showed up because the dad did indeed make a complaint. No issue came from that because all is well in my house, and I’ve still been watching the children. But I’m very upset that he’s still acting this way over what I think is minor and a normal thing that kids go through all while I still watch the kids, and I don’t want to watch the kids anymore after this mess. Am I wrong? What would you do

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I would honestly stop watching his kids

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I’m so sorry that happened. I wouldn’t feel comfortable watching the kids anymore either. It’s unfortunate but I wouldn’t want to deal with another situation in the future with them.

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Umm I wouldn’t want to watch them anymore either…

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Nope they wouldn’t come back into my house. Let dad fine alternative child care

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I would have a sit down talk with the parents. Explains to them what happened and if they had a problem with it then they can remove their kids from your care. I would also state that the next time he bad mouths you on social media or calls cps then that will be the last of your services. You are doing them a favor by continuing to watch their kids after the closure of the daycare, you don’t have to continue caring for them.

Honestly stop watching them

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In my opinion I wouldn’t…

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I honestly wouldn’t watch them anymore. :woman_shrugging:t4: If the dad did that over miscommunication, and not hearing both sides before calling CPS, the dad will do it again.

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I wouldn’t babysit for them anymore. Next time a disagreement happens who knows what he will do. Sounds like a real jerk.

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I wouldn’t continue to watch them. That dad seems way dramatic and no telling what he might pull next. Kids do say stuff like that but it’s how the parent reacts. Trust me if I was letting someone watch my children and I truly believed they were being neglected I would not be posting on Facebook but probably sitting in jail for whooping some tail

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First off…depending what the laws are where you live…you need a licence to care for children in your home. I learned this the hard way. Beware. Also. I’d stop babysitting his kids for sure.

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I wouldn’t be watching anyones children who’s called CPS on me, especially over such a ridiculous complaint.

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Easy answer. Stop watching the his kids.

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I wouldn’t watch them any more and sure as hell wouldn’t feel bad about it.

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I wouldn’t watch his kids anymore. Plain and simple! You need to protect you and your livelihood!

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Stop watching those kids. You have every right not to. I’d simply tell the mother, that you can no longer care for them. Give a written notice that’s is dated and signed by you in front of a notary. That way if dad tries to call cps out of retaliation, you have some proof of why he called again.

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Yeah, hell no. Calling CPS over dumb crap like that? Bye! And good luck finding another sitter after that!

So watching the kids. Don’t give time another chance to come up with another lie to call cps.

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Id give them two weeks notice or whatever and plan to bring other kids in. He has irreparably damaged the trust between you all and therefore, theres no need to continue the service. I think its good that you have had cps in and they know all is sound.

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