This pregnancy is a lot harder than my first: Advice?

Hey mommas. This is my second pregnancy, and its A LOT harder than the first. I’m usually an active person. I like sports and played basketball until I was 4.5 months pregnant (like a drop in I ran pretty good), but this pregnancy, I can’t even run. Due to the painfulness of having what feels and what I guess is a strained groin. I’ve been limited to do doing so much less. Literally laying in bed in the wrong position can have me sore all day. Sitting down too long can make me sore. I sat in a truck to travel an hour to another town to shop and back home, and the amount of pain led me to cry. Getting out of bed is a struggle. I couldn’t even go bowling without ending up in pain later the whole night. Switching sides from left to right during the night hurts. I do stretch every day; i do take a decently warm bath. I have a heated bean bag. It’s just been such a toll on me, especially this past week. It’s making me feel sad alone. I want to enjoy going out AT LEAST to dinner without wanting to cry because sitting on my ass in a public restaurant hurts. My question, who has gone through this? What has helped, and what sitting/sleeping positions worked best? I do have body pillows. I know it’s not safe to sleep on your back, and sleeping on my belly isn’t comfortable. Left with my sides, which still hurt HELP PLEASE, that’s all I’m looking for is help. I have a lot of appointments out of town due to living in a small town so I have no choice but to travel and making that easier would be great.


Every pregnancy is different! I would try to use a body pillow, to where you’re almost on your stomach, but more on the side. Bring the one knee up on that body pillow and it should help. Good luck!!

Is it your actual groin that’s giving you issues?

Chiropractor. Sounds like you might have some sciatica.


I’m glad I’m not the only one. I’m currently pregnant with my second and everyday I feel like I’ve been hit by a truck.

either you are carrying baby low or the baby is messing with your spine

My 3rd pregnancy was almost the same doing just about anything hurt one side of my back would hurt for a week straight and than its switch to the other side :woozy_face: and sleeping was not fine I had to use a body pillow to put between my legs and moving side to side would hurt a lot to where yes I’d start crying eventually. But yeah pregnancies are different my 1st was a breeze, 2nd was a little tough, but my 3rd was worse than both. Try seeing a chiropractor about it. I did that with my 2nd pregnancy and it was amazing

In my experience the more pregnancies the worse the symptoms… with my 1st I literally had no symptoms except lack of period… my 2nd morning sickness that lasted all day until 15 weeks,my 3rd morning sickness with no vomiting that just made me feel awful all day until 16 weeks, severe sciatica and on bedrest at 32 weeks due to 3rd trimester bleeding… needless to say I love my babies but I will not be having anymore… hang in there, u got this! Good luck!

All of that sounds so familiar I had all of those pains I literally felt disabled my 2nd pregnancy (just delivered 3 weeks ago) all I did was warm baths in Epsom salt tylenol heating nd ice packs …they helped but it was some days I could barely walk towards the end I was recommended to go to physical therapy but i delivered shortly after never made it… hope u find some relief good luck

My first I was tossing 50lb bags of horse feed and dirt on the regular. My second, if I walked too much I was down for days. I was miserable for about 30weeks on. Sitting sucked, walking sucked, sleeping sucked. I was miserable and crabby. My dr suggested a belly band, the dme place never sent it and didnt even call about it until I was 36weeks. So I stuck it out since I was a scheduled induction at 39weeks. Unfortunately there is not a whole lot that you can do outside of stretching. It honestly sounds like round ligament. Best thing that happened was that I had my daughter and within a couple weeks I was back to normal

Literally what im going through currently im afraid im gonna have to stop working till hes out of me.

Pillow between your legs? When I broke my tailbone it helped with pain. Ice packs on lower back. Why can’t you sleep on your back? Just curious cause I did before I would finally moved to my side.I carried my son in the back area until he moved forward to the front.

I pulled my groin muscle one week before I gave birth. The pulled muscle hurt so much worse than labor. Nothing helped me. :confused:

I used a lot of hot waterbottles and magic bags… my 2nd had me in way more physical body pain.

Chiropractor helped tremendously but make sure to get one that has worked with expecting mothers

I was also recently diagnosed with SPD in my second pregnancy… and it makes every day tasks so unbelievably difficult due to the pain… Unfortunately not much u can do but keep urself as comfortable as possible. Physiotherapy is the best route for the most relief… Good luck lady…

Yes I just had a baby at 38 this pregnancy was so hard

Are you wearing a pregnancy support belt? Sounds like pelvic girdle pain. Look up exercises on YouTube and, definetly use back and belly supports. Get a doughnut to sit on or a nice squishy seat cover to help with the pressure when sitting. If you can get to a pool or hot tub let your feet and hip dangle and take the pressure off them for 30-40 minutes a day.

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Go see your doctor . I have never heard of someone feeling like this . I had three kids and yes , they get harder on your body with each pregnancy , but you shouldn’t be feeling so bad in my opinion .

Also , do NOT take very hot baths nor use a jacuzzi. Just trust me on this one . I don’t wanna worry you with what can happen