Thoughts about this situtation with my husband?

So my husband would rather masturbate than have sex with me. I need some advice as to how I should feel about it and how I should handle it in a positive way. Thank you!

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I would ask him why.

c o m m u n i c a t i o n. ask him why, spice up the sex life, change perfume(its proven men get tired of same routine) wear different lingerie, change your look, you gotta spice it up to keep up.

Has he told you this :thinking:

Has he said this or are you just assuming because he masturbates more than he has sex with you? If you know he’s doing himself, then you know he wants sex. So why aren’t y’all having sex? It’s not all his job to initiate it. So if you want it, do it.

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I mean, it’s a LOT less work doing it yourself lol

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Lay next to him, rub yourself and let him go his thing. It’s hot as fuck. Just try it. Or he will probably leave in the future. :woman_shrugging:

Why do you say that? Did he tell you that or are you assuming and in your feelings? Have you talked to him about it ?

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I feel like I sent this in :thinking::joy:

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as a dude shocking i know act interested! Then join in maybe mutual masterbation will get it started

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Baby girl, I hate to say it but maybe he’s not attracted to you. Are there parts of yourself you’d like to work on? Maybe your attitude could use some cheering up, maybe try some different makeup styles or a hair cut? Some cute stuff to wear to bed? Sometimes we need to switch it up a bit. If that doesn’t work, he’s gay. :woman_shrugging:t4: But put the effort in first ok babes? :kissing_heart::kissing_heart: good luck!

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Yea if he has not told you I would not assume… also see what kind of porn he’s masterbating to

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I’m amazed by the amount of men on here commenting. The page is called Mamas Uncut, for women to post questions of other women about being a mother. You don’t belong here,we don’t want your input.

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Its awesome to see men’s responses, I think any input from different perspectives is awesome.

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maybe you’re bad in bed?

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Why is it that it is always the woman’s fault,don’t you think just maybe he can’t get an erection because something bis wrong with him physically

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I went through that with my last relationship and tried to do all the things- different makeup and clothes and worked out… my new bf is all about me and wants to have sex with me whenever I want it. It’s not you! It’s just not the right relationship maybe?!?

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Talk to him. Ask what’s going on. Tell.him no matter the reason, you want to know. Be super straight up and honest, regardless on how it might make u feel.
It could be something you both can work on…or it may just be something HE needs help with.
If he always always always has to initiate it, maybe hes just done with asking. If you ask and try turning him on and he is always rejecting you that’s different.
You both need to TALK big time. And now before the marriage ends. Cause that’s where something like this can lead.

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It’s can be an addiction. Also some men are used to their own touch & how to ejaculate. They can do it quicker. Maybe hes telling you something.

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People forget that humans have things they are attracted too . Iv been married to my husband for 11 years and this happned twice with him. We have to keep up with ourselves spiritually and physically . There is a reason why . And you cannot rule out yourself . Hopefully it’s not because of unfaithful reasons .
My mother inlaw had the idea since she had his kids and that marriage was permanent too her . She didnt have to work on her self . And there marriage fell apart miserably. And the bedroom is where it starts.