Tips and advice on starting breastfeeding?

Okay, so I’m expecting my second in July 2020. I formula fed my first as I’m very uncomfortable with the idea of breastfeeding. She’s an extremely sickly child, so I want to try exclusively pumping for my next one because I’ve heard breast milk has major health benefits. I do, however, have few questions about the matter… What happens if the baby is born and I don’t have milk right away? How often do you feed and how much? How long do you pump for? My friend breastfed both her sons, and she has extremely saggy boobs… Does that always happen even if you pump? I know this all might sound stupid, but I’m kinda lost here…


Milk usually wont come in until 2-5 days after birth. If you’re wanting to JUST pump, pump every 2 hours for 15-20 minutes each boob. You can substitute formula when she/he is born until your milk exclusively comes in, BUT the colostrum is super good for your baby to have immediately. Breastfeeding is a challenge itself and i praise all mommas that do it!


Exclusively pumping never yields the same amount of milk and you may need to supplement.

Choosing to not breastfeed due to vanity is kinda selfish :woman_shrugging:


I breastfeed and my boobs arent saggy at all :unamused::woman_facepalming:t3:. Not sure why that matters anyway if you want your child to have breastmilk, dont not do it because you’re afraid of “saggy boobs” Pump every 2 to 3 hours religiously it’s what I did until she was big enough to breastfeed (NICU baby)


Best advice call a lactation specialist they are the experts. Your local hospital should have one on staff. It is hard to breast feed but it does have health benefits. Best of luck


Try and get a lactation consultant. it does a world of difference. I wouldn’t of made it without one. I mostly did pump because I had to work but its tiring. If your not pumping to mimic feeds you wont pump enough to feed the baby. Also while they eat less save your extra milk to freeze. I wouldn’t of made it thru growth spurts without it lol.

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I would breastfeed then when your milk comes in 2-5 days you could pump.

Remember their stomachs are as big as their fist and dont need very much to fill them up.

Some womens breasts dont change other than when the milk comes in.

No way of avoiding that. I got my stretch marks during my pregnancy.

The baby is only sucking and not pulling at your whole breast. I dont think breastfeeding does any damage its all done during pregnancy.

I don’t believe all of the hype about getting saggy breasts with breasfeeding. I think with larger breasts, they will just start to lose elasticity over time. Your breasts are not gonna look the same at 30 as they did at 19. And a lot if women blame it on having kids. Its seriously just part of aging. I have been nursing my daughter for almost a year and I haven’t noticed a single change in my breast tissue. Another reason women may blame nursing is because of the weight gain with pregnancy in general. Then when the weight is lost typically the breast size will go back down and there will be a bit of loose skin. Breastfeeding your child is the best thing you could ever do


Like mentioned milk takes 2-5 days to come In depending on the person. I successfully breastfed two little ones, my daughter my milk took 5-7 days to come in, she nursed strictly on demand for 20 months, then I had my son and my milk was in right away and he’s almost 2 and still nursing. My first son I formula fed as I wa uneducated on breastfeeding. Breastfeeding is natural and a woman’s breasts are supposed be to feed children not a sexual thing like many people make it out to be. (Please No bashing for nursing my son so long)


Your boobs are gonna change regardless of how you feed. My boobs are not saggy, but they are not the same perky boys I had before having kids. Its life … when I had my daughter I bf and my milk didn’t come in right away it took like 4 days before it fully. Came in , however when they are little they dont need much to get full maybe an oz or 2 . I supplemented with formula until my breast milk came fully in . I had a very hard time bf because I didn’t know much , I’d say even if you are not producing enough to feed baby still have baby latch because that helps your body produce the breast milk .

For the first 2-5 days you wont have milk, you will have very very small amounts of colostrum. Babies need less colostrum than formula in the beginning so if you only get a teaspoon at first, that’s what baby would normally be suckling. Hospitals usually have a lactation consultant on staff, or you can see if you can find one outside of the hospital. WIC has a 24 hour breastfeeding line that you can call any time, even if not on wic (look it up for your area) and they will give advise as well. I’ve ebf 2 babies now and do not have saggy boobies, it just depends on the woman. Mine are super perky when I’m lactating. You will need to pump every two hours at first, it will be exhausting, but know that you can do it.

See if you have a WIC office near you. They always have a breastfeeding specialist available to help and answer any questions for free! They have been such a God send​:heart::heart::heart:

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Pump til the milk stops dripping! But it’s going to suck to pump and feed it’s like double feeding but that’s up to you just a lot of extra work! I didn’t breastfeed my 1st I was a young mom she was sick all the time and still gets sick as a teen! I have a 5 month old now and strictly breastfed shes doing great and never been sick!

Its really not about your boobs and what they look like. You put everything aside to do what’s best for your child. I’m very bothered by you calling your child sickly and worrying about what your are going to look like. Not sure you should have children at all. Theres truly no room to be selfish when having babies.


There will be a lactation consultant at the hospital. Ask for her when you’re there so you can get professional advice. I breastfed my first and I’m currently nursing my second. It’s the best thing for your child. Try not to worry about your boobs, mine were still perky after my first. And your child deserves the best out of life, if you can, you should really consider doing it. Pumping is great too, as long as she’s getting the milk

I breastfeed two babies and my boobs are not saggy at all. Both times it took about two to three days for the milk to start flowing. But they still need to be on the breast to get the colostrum. I worried in that time thinking that they were not getting what they needed but your body is designed to do just what it’s supposed to do to feed your baby

Breasts change with age, weight changes and with hormonal changes, it doesn’t matter if you nurse, pump or bottle feed, they WILL change lol. I nursed and pumped with my daughter and they’ve not become saggy, but a bit of excess skin from stretching and then reducing in size- normal changes.
It takes a few days for milk to come in. I started pumping right after birth (within a couple of hours). I pumped every 3 hours around the clock (yes even overnight), during growth spurts I added 2 power pump sessions at 3 AM and 3 PM (this may not be necessary, I have hypothyroidism and had fluctuations post-partum). Try to have lots of skin to skin contact even if you’re not wanting to nurse, lay and cuddle with baby belly to belly it really helps.
I plan to exclusively nurse my second baby but I will be collecting colostrum in the weeks before my due date to freeze and bring to the hospital.

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Talk with a lactation counselor. They will be able to answer all of your questions. I used to pump every 1 1/2- 2 hours. I used to pump a MINIMUM of 42 ounces a day. Needless to say I ended up having hundreds frozen breast milk bags in my deep freezer. As for sagging boobs, breastfeeding or not, after you have a baby, that can happen once your milk is dried up. :woman_shrugging:t4:

Before you leave the hospital ask to see the lactation consultant. Also, your local WIC office will be able to help with everything after you get home! They make home visits and give free breast pumps and supplies. The Leaky Boob is also a really good page to follow for tips and support. Good luck mama!! :grin::grin: