My 12-year-old is convinced that she has the worst home life ever because I have to know who she is hanging out with at all times and won’t let her “go for a walk” at dusk with her female friends completely unsupervised. We also limit online activity. Recently it seems that her anger toward her brother has increased- he’s no angel, and I’m well aware of that, but she calls him a LOT of names: fat, ugly, stupid, lazy, etc. She basically demands that she spend the night with a friend at least one night every weekend, my husband and I usually give in just so that we can have some peace in the house for at least a day, but I know that isn’t helping reach the long-term goal of raising kind, responsible, respectful, successful young people. She rarely asks for anything anymore; instead says things like, “You need to get/buy/do ___ for me…” and when I say “No,” I get an immediate whining “Buuuuuut whyyyyyyy?!?” And she throws a temper tantrum, screaming, yelling, name-calling- far beyond anything she ever did as a toddler or young child. I know that we have got to get this attitude under control, and FAST, but I’m stuck on how to do this without also making everyone else in our home miserable in the process. We never dealt with disrespect (at this age or to this extreme) with our older girls. Anyone else been here and survived the drama-filled child?
“No.” is a complete sentence. For everything she “needs” to do then she can volunteer at a place first.
Going through this myself but with an 11 and 12 year old girl, so please all suggestions but we also have to deal with other parents and their rules.
Start taking away phones, tablets etc. make her do more chores if she is gonna have an attitude
yeah not that does seem dumb, shes 12 not 2 i dont see why she cant go hang out with a group of freinds so long as she stays in contact with you
Maybe something is going on at school…
What of it’s a step daughter and her dad backs her up in anything she says
Welcome to teenage years.
Four years in a military school should clear that right up
Adolescent stages can be tough. I have a 12 year old. Giving her responsibilities might help. But it’s the stage of I know everything you know nothing. Self esteem is big also so the brother doing that isn’t helping either. Puberty hormonal changes also. Trusting her goes a long ways also. Hopefully this doesn’t sound crazy. She doesn’t want to be around mom and dad so trusting her to be with friends is something to try also.
You are the parent stop the sleep overs say no more often take her phone away for a few weeks
Normally, manners (please, thank you, etc) are taught at a young age. But it might not be too late to start. Throw some discipline in there.
Its normal. Sorry it last 5 yrs. They hate you and everything you say. Welcome to teenage yrs
Mom of 6… 3 girls!!! Good luck. This is when we find out how well we raised them. Respect and consequences!
I would take her phone and thing of that type and make her stay home. It’s going to be hell but stick it out.
My momma would’ve buried my arse if I did any of that… I recommend military school and some for sure discipline.
Take her door off the hinges. Take everything away from her. Zero privileges until she can practice good behavior.
A nice ass whipping and that will be fixed. This is my house and you live by my rules until you can pay rent and have ur own keys… there are many homeless shelters…get her a list for Christmas!
Umm…quit giving in?? 🤷
Does she realize how many sick pedifiles r out there conning kids.