*Trigger warning* I contacted CPS due to something disturbing my son said: Advice?

My son usually sees his father a couple of times a week, sometimes overnight, sometimes for a few hours. Roughly a month ago, he made comments to me that have thought he might have been sexually and physically abused by his father. I called DHS and got sole custody while they investigate. My question is this last week; his behavior has been awful! He bit a friend at school (hasn’t done that since he was one and only to me), bit me, is hitting me, has been pooping his pants (been potty trained since right after turning 2) and running from me in parking lots, screaming constantly when I tell him to be quiet, pushing the baby down. I believe he has ADHD, and even that has been through the roof lately. And he’s such doing everything to be defiant. Like I’ll tell him not to do something, and he will say he doesn’t care and do it anyway. I don’t know what to do. I know he’s going through a lot. I need advice on how I can get these behaviors under control. I’m so overwhelmed with EVERYTHING going on. DHS tried to get info out of him in an interview without asking leading questions, and of course, he didn’t disclose anything because he doesn’t know them and isn’t going to just say it in the middle of a conversation with them. So at this point, IDK what the future holds. He’s three by the way.

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Have you talked to a therapist yet? It also might be good to schedule a checkup with the doctor. Hope everything works out for you and your son.

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Um you said he said something to make you concerned. What did he say?

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Therapist is first on the list not Facebook. Also if they find nothing his father will get to see him again.

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His pooping his pants is to repel touching by others, his protection. Take this seriously. He is acting out because he is scared and angry.

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Take him to a child therapist. The behavior you mentioned sounds alarming and it might be his way of dealing with trauma. Stay strong!

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My son went through similar around that age and has been in therapy for a few months now. He was diagnosed with ADHD but when his behavior got that way I immediately got concerned and took him to be evaluated by a doctor and therapist. I would suggest doing both of those first and foremost.

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Kids can seriously regress when things are stressful- it could be a reaction to something that happened at dads OR that he’s not seeing dad. Get him in counseling ASAP, any pediatric counselor should be able to help w diagnosis of possible adhd, but also help figure out if something happened too

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Talk to him. The world is a scary place and parents are supposed to be trusted. If he feels that he’s trust (which is massive for kids because they love unconditionally) is broken by one parent he may be scared that you could break he’s trust. Talk to him ask him what’s wrong, is there something he wants to tell you and doesn’t know how (let him know he won’t be in trouble). Let him know that you love him and nothing he says or does will ever stop you from loving him. Tell him everyday that you love him (every morning and every night before bed), tell him that he is brave, strong, caring, awesome, that he can achieve anything he dreams off.

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Contact a therapist that deals with trauma and speak with them for advice, not Facebook.

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Hes acting out because hes scared and angry he probably remembers very well what happened to him. Take him to child therapy and hes acting out probably because of his trauma, and doesnt want to be touched. If not delt with properly he will not recover from this in a healthy way. What did he say!?

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ADHD and ODD go together often.

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Sorry to hear this is horrible poor lil dude I would definitely get him in therapy /counseling both of u actually

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Those sound like red flags. I believe your right about the sexual stuff. I am so sorry.

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Google or ask DHS the signs of sexual abuse in little ones. His sound very common for victims. Talk to his pediatrician about the behaviours. They may be able to get him an appointment with an expert that is trained to talk to younger children. Been there. Good luck.

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So, CPS found nothing, he’s acting out now that he can’t see dad and you’re going to blame the issues on dad? Since you don’t share what was said, it’s really hard to judge what’s going on. The fact they had him interviewed by strangers doesn’t mean anything, I’d he wouldn’t talk they would continue investigating and set up another meeting. Since they’re not doing anything, they must not have found any concern (you also don’t say where they’re at with their investigation).
I don’t know… There’s a lot of missing info

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Definite get to the bottom of it. Make sure you have facts. If Dad is innocent you don’t want to ruin his father life. I’ll pray for revelation.

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Make sure he can not see dad! Get him checked out make a case against the dad. Protect your baby and make sure he gets the help and love he needs. Let him know he can trust you.

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Did you take him to a medical trauma expert to check for physical signs of rape?

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I haven’t dealt with any of this. But I would definitely consider counseling or a therapy. Prayers for your little guy!

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