I am absolutely falling apart. My child has a phone that father got for child that is linked to his Gmail account. After a few recent unsettling incidents, I decided to look into what text messages where shared. I then accidentally typed something into google, which came up with something that sent alarm bells. Being very technology challenged, I got a heads up of how to go through search history. This has uncovered a lot of child pornography. I have been to the police, which in turn, child safety will become involved. What do I do in the meantime when said child wants to go to her dad’s and I’m legally obliged due to court orders. I cant said child directly due to the case I have been advised until the child gets interviewed by child protection
*Trigger warning* I found some unsettling things in my daughters phone linked to her dads gmail: Help!
You can tell her that he’s busy, or on vacation, away for work. There are dozens of excuses you can give her to spare her the hard truth. Ugh I’m so sorry. Definitely keep her away from him at all costs.
Ask the police what you can do.
I think you would be in the right to keep her, going against custody, for fear of her safety. Especially if the police have been involved and until everything is investigated.
Ask the police and speak to child protective workers. Personally, I would not let him anywhere near her! Ultimately the safety of your child is of the utmost importance!
Child pornography?! File for full custody. Get her a different phone not connected to him and if anyone says anything about it use it as evidence. That is wrong. She doesn’t need to be anywhere near him
We’re these images found on his email? Images found on her phone? Images he shared with her? Depending on her age and where the images were found I’d talk to her even before cps does. She shouldn’t be side blinded when they show up. If she’s seen them or he’s done something inappropriate to her she may be terrified to tell you. I’d let her know it’s ok and she’s done nothing wrong but for her safety you need to know what if anything she’s seen or has knowledge of going on.
File for protection order, have her interview at child dr for sexual abuse prior to children services. That way the court order is null and void as she would be in danger in that situation.
In cases like this. It’s best to consult a lawyer.
But I know if you fear for your childs safety you can keep your child.
In my fiance’s case (mother was being neglectful), we were told to keep his son till court. Of course with that being said there is always repercussion. We now have to allow her 50 over night visits
I would not send my child no matter what the court order says… in order for you to get in trouble for not sending her he would have to take you to court. Because of what you found that is not going to happen… do not allow your child to be around him!
Simple fix. Seek legal help. Common sense, don’t let him take her
I’d take a small vacation this weekend with her if that’s possible
Make sure it’s not your daughter and her friends being curious… because these are some VERY serious accusations
Ask the police if you can get a protection order.
File emergency custody papers and call police they can make it where you wont get in trouble
If you allow her to go knowing that she may be in danger that will look bad on you. If, God forbid, anything happens.
First off, I am so sorry you and your child are going through this second, tell her dad’s working extra hours, if she is young enough to believe in santa, tell her dad is helping the elves and santa get ready for Christmas. I hope and pray the police work well with you and do something. This isn’t anything to mess around with! You’re doing the right thing and taking the right steps.
File for emergency custody. I wouldn’t let him take her at all and you’re in full rights to keep your daughter away from him. I’m so sorry that’s happening to you , honey. What state ?
Do not allow her to his home, no matter what. You need to protect your baby
Get kid own gmail account. It‘a easy make her her own gmail email. It will be too easy for dad to say it’s not him since it’s shared, kid could say someone took the phone or blame dad… he said he she said type thing.