Trigger warning: I had a still born, how does my family heal from this?

This is a very sensitive subject. I recently had a stillbirth at 35 weeks a little over a month ago. All of these feelings not only for myself but for my current son, who is 6, and my husband is so overwhelming sometimes. I am looking at the positive, and I trust God has a plan for us, so I hold on to that and my faith, but is there anything other mothers did that have gone through this to heal. We are healing as a family, and I’m digging deep into scripture and sermons, and we will heal together but any advice I would take.

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Awe I’m so sorry!! Hugs

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Therapy would greatly help the grieving process especially with something so tragic like this.

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So sorry for your loss. It seems that you are doing exactly what is right for you. Everyone will deal with it in their own way. Be patient with the process. It will take time. Maybe talk to other women that have been through it in a support group? My thoughts are with you. Hang in there mama :two_hearts:

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Find a support group. It helps to talk to someone that knows what you’re going through.

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I’ve never gone through this so I don’t have any personal experience, however I’m sure therapy for the whole family would really help. Just wanted to say that as hard as it may be keep reading your Bible and relying on God. My friend who lost her baby just put up a thing that said how amazing it is that the first person the he sees when he opened his eyes was God. I thought what a comfort to know what. I’ll keep you and your family in my prayers though.

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Tell her to send me a friend request. I am going through the same thing. I have an album on my fb with sayings I have fount and it really is helping me cope. The 29th will be a mth that I lost my lil boy at 31.5 weeks. I would like to share these with her and hopefully we both can heal

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I haven’t went through this but I have a friend who has. She lost a baby at 39 weeks. Prior to this happening she noticed the baby stop moving or moving less. They didn’t want to give her an ultrasound. Just assured her all was fine and when you get that far along you may not feel movement as much.
Anyway the baby passed and she pursued a career in nursing to help others, she stayed very busy.
Prayers for you

Listen to God has a rocking chair by the Greens Your baby is with God now I loss a baby when I was 18 and was never able to have any kids after that. God is with you and will heal your heart you will grieve but it is something that will always lay heavy on your heart. I was blessed and God sent me a new born when I was 42 he know one day when I was ready I would have another baby we adopted her and she has been a joy. I am praying for you and your family God bless you grieve as long as you need to.

So so sorry to read this. You will take care of the faith aspect within the family. However you may need both individually and as a family to get bereavement counselling. Also people deal with loss in different ways. Some have found ut helpful to make a little memorial garden, if space allows, if not, perhaps a flower bed, a window box, plant a shrub or tree that will flower/fruit at this time. Make a little shrine in your home, have all the family help with it. This is just a few ideas that have helped others. Is there an organisation for still birth attached to the hospiral or in your area. I pray ye will find comfort. :pray::purple_heart:

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I’m so sorry that you are going through this and know exactly what you are going through. I delivered in March this year at 37 weeks a still birth. I kept the nursery up for as long as I needed to, because it made me feel like we were still waiting for him. We all grieve in different ways and that is just one of the things that helped me along with a great support system.

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I have not experienced this myself, but I will say from the families I’ve known that have, one of the most important things you can do is respect each other’s individual grieving process, and understand that it will be different from yours and that’s ok. Everyone will need to handle this in their own way.

My mom carried my baby sister full term and she was stillborn . This was in the 70’s . I was almost six and my sister was eight . It was simply devastating! My mom wishes to this day they had gotten counseling back then . She’s 79 and still can’t talk about the baby . She keeps it bottled up inside . I know we all believe we will meet her in heaven one day . God is a very help in trouble . But , time has not necessarily healed the pain . Keep turning to Christ . That’s the best advice I can offer . But know , that hole in your heart will remain until Christ returns . Much love , care and prayers !

I went through this 6 years ago. Not a day goes by I don’t think about my baby boy. My daughter was 8 at the time. What worked for us was talking to each other and having a lot of family time. The pain is always their but you get stronger each day. Hugs to you and your family.

Remember he is with you and he has a plan :heart:

oh my I’m so very sorry no words can take that pain away :cry: :broken_heart:

I too had a still born. I was 7 months pregnant and pushed down a flight of stairs. I was all alone in recovery but it helps to name the child and talk about tgem. Don’t hide your grief. Or their name.

Could you rest in peace if No one talk about you or mentioned your name .

Facebook has it where I cannot even share her memorial page on here.

Make a shadow box with her baby things in it or a memorial site … A find a grave memorial on line. Also… Make sure other siblings…now and future siblings know about her

When my daughter passed away 24 yrs ago I talked Abt her to anyone that would listen yes I cried alot the first few yrs but eventually I got to where I can talk Abt her and not cry. Please don’t let anyone tell you you should get over it you never get over it you just learn to accept it…I’m so sorry y’all had to go through this

I lost my twin girl’s January 2019. I was 5 week’s from my scheduled c-section. We had a home invasion and the intruder left me for dead. Two day’s later I was found. My twin’s died in the life flight. It was and still is the hardest thing my family and I have gone through. Counseling helped emensly for myself, my 10 yr old son and husband. It still hurts everyday. Without the Lord though, I don’t know how we could’ve coped. I am currently 21wks pregnant with another girl and feel guilty sometimes, because I couldn’t save my twin’s. I’m so sorry for yours and your family’s loss. God bless y’all.

April Courvoisier thought of you and maybe you can offer some hope/healing for this family :heart::heart::heart: