Trigger warning: Miscarriage

When I was 15, I got pregnant by a 19-year-old. I didn’t know much about sex and was very naive. I wasn’t put on birth control; I wasn’t even taught about periods. I was homeschooled up until I was 15 as well, so no Sex Ed yet. My family goes to the last ultrasound, I don’t remember how far along I was, but I remember when none of us heard a heartbeat and the words coming out of the woman’s mouth telling me I had had a miscarriage. She and my mother spoke quietly, and the rest of us went to the car. When we got home, my mom took me aside and told me that she said since it’s so little, it would go past on its own two months later, and it had yet to pass. I was getting very sickly, waiting. I got to the point where I couldn’t move much on my own and couldn’t keep any food or liquids down for a week. My mother calls my primary doctor, and she calls me in some medication. I take it as prescribed, and eventually, the baby comes out. I have two questions about this, but I feel it requires this little backstory above. 1: I have had extreme back pain every time I get too cold or when it rains a lot since it’s happened. To the point, I’ve basically been paralyzed. I haven’t spoken to the doctor about it because I don’t know of anything that could be done, but I’m at the point now where I’ve got a son, and I can’t be getting locked up like this anymore. I’m a single parent, so there’s no one to help me. I was just wondering if anyone had any experience with passing a miscarriage on your own and if it caused any life long problems 2: I don’t remember the medication name, so I googled what I did remember of it. The pills I found online that matched the description best were called abortion pills. I’m now very upset and worried that maybe the ultrasound machine had a fluke, and I accidentally aborted my son’s older sibling. I was just wondering if that was possible. I should think of went back to the OB for another ultrasound before getting those pills

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You need to contact a doctor…they can help a lot more then Facebook physicians!

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I’ve never had a miscarriage or an abortion but I imagine if the baby had passed and your body was having a hard time doing the process on it’s own maybe the medication would be the same as the medication to used for an early on abortion. I maybe totally wrong here I’m not a doctor and I’ve never gone through it just my thoughts. I definitely would ask a doctor about the pain you’re feeling. I’m sorry you went through all of that.

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Miscarriages are called “spontaneous abortions” so that could be why they are labeled that way

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I was pregnant at 15 as well. My twins died at 20 weeks and I too went septic. What we aren’t warned about is the damage pregnancy does to us at that age. The pressure on our young bones does damage. Go to your doctor and demand to be heard. Ask for a referral to a dietitian and learn about way to heal the damage. Magnesium helps, vitamin d, calcium, c, and glucosamine are what I take. It can get better.hang in there momma and I am sorry you were so badly treated you disnt deserve that as you struggled

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I’m so sorry for your loss. There are typically 3 options when you miscarry. 1. Pass on your own. 2. Take the medication (which is like abortion meds). 3. Surgery. If it doesn’t pass on it’s own, the option is medication or surgery otherwise there’s a high risk of infection. Some choose not to take the medication since it’s also classified as abortion medication.

For the continued symptoms, I agree with the others- get to your doctor.

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Miscarriages are medically referred to as spontaneous abortions. And a miscarriage in your past should not have any effect as far as paralyzing you if you have a cold.

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I had miscarriage at about 6 weeks didn’t find out until 8 weeks. I too giving a rx to help it pass but when that didn’t work they had me come in and have a d&c. I’m sorry they let you carry so long.

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when the fetus didn’t expel on it’s own, they had to use a cocktail of drugs to force it from your womb. It wasn’t an abortion in the normal sense, as the baby had already passed away.

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I can’t believe they made you take a pill and not go have a dnc. I got so sick trying to pass a miscarriage on my own that I had to be rushed to the hospital to have a dnc. If there were any damage though you wouldn’t have had a successful pregnancy. So you did pass everything. That doesn’t always happen. You should look up side effects of abortion pills and ask a doctor as well as for your current pain. I passed another miscarriage after that on my own. Had to hear from my doctor both times that the baby I was carrying died. I’m sorry for your loss. I don’t think you accidentally aborted a healthy baby. So let that calm your mind. Definitely see someone about that physical pain you have. Praying for you!

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You need to get to a doctor or if it’s bad go to ER … No here can answer this … Not being mean but we aren’t doctors nor do we know the details or medicine you took … DO NOT GO TO DOCTOR THT TOOK CARE OF THIS … Personally I get to ER

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Try to get your chart information from the time and schedule an appointment with that info with a doctor and talk about your experience and your concerns with your current pain maybe?

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:butterfly:oh sweetie. I am so very sorry for your loss. Don’t be too hard on yourself and don’t over think the why’s it happened. Sometimes this just happens. As for your physical symptoms now. Start journaling what you are doing and where you are 24 hours before it happens. Try to find the common thread (other than the weather). There may be an allergy issue.

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We’re not doctors. Call your doctor.

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I had was called vanishing twin syndrome with my last pregnancy. I remember being so scared, cause I thought I was losing my baby. I was having all the signs of a miscarriage. The er Dr doctors told me that one of the twins had past, but there was no need to worry since my body would absorb it. My son was born at 37 weeks, and was a happy healthy baby. The er doc and ob were correct. My body did absorb the other baby. I didn’t know I was pregnant with twins, till I was told by the er doc.

I was able to pass it on my own, and I have no long term problems from it. I’ve had three healthy pregnancies since then.

I got pregnant at 15 as well. My son was born at 34 weeks. He is special needs and 13 years old. My body was always in pain after his pregnancy. 13 years later and it still is. I honestly don’t think our bodies are ready to have babies that young and that’s my problem.

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Op please call your Obgyn or go to the ER. There is so much misinformation in your post and in these comments. Stay off doctor google and nurse suzzie from FB. This is an ob’s worst nightmare! They are the best at answering your questions. And reliving your pain.

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You said you had a son. Did you happen to get an epidural when you had him?

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It sounds like you’ve had a “ silent “ miscarriage
Sadly quite often the body holds on to the baby so help is needed for the miscarriage to take place - this is often done either surgically or with medicine - like in your case - what you were given is a perfectly normal way to bring about the natural process - your body could have continued to hold the baby for many many more weeks - which as you were discovering - could make you very unwell

Losing a baby under any circumstances and at any age is such a sad thing and is hard to go through - my heart goes out to you
On a different note you shouldn’t be feeling pain from this - therefore to be honest I think the only people that can help with this is a doctor - I think you need to tell them what you’ve told us x

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