We are trying for another baby but have a two bedroom house: Advice on how to make it work?

My husband wants to try for another baby. We currently have a 13-month-old daughter. I work at her daycare and pay 1/2 price, but that’s still $100 a week…if we had another it would be $200 a week. I don’t want to stay working at a daycare forever. I have a Bachelor’s Degree. He makes good money at his job, but I’m not sure what to do. I’d love to have another one, but at the same time, we’d probably make too much for Medicaid, which means a hospital bill, more diapers, all of the baby’s needs, etc. IDK. I’m good at overthinking things. We also only have a two-bedroom house, and her room is quite small. We rent from my grandmother, so it’s fairly cheap for the area. A 3 bedroom is at least $850, and that’s usually an apartment. We have a large dog, so that’s not an option. Our credit isn’t the best, so I’m not sure if we’d even be able to buy. Mama’s, how do you do it? How do you have two close in age and make it work? Not looking for backlash. Just advice and opinions!

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Hubby and I work opposite shifts, i work part-time and this way we don’t pay for a babysitter or daycare.
It’s hard but we make it work.

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I got 2 daughters one 4 and another 2. And they share a room. You dont really have to worry about the bedroom issue for almost 2 years. Cause for almost a year your pregnant and then me personally I always felt comfortable with my child sleeping in the same room for atleast first 6 months. So more like a year and half and if you have same of the same sex they could share a room . Mine dont have a big room either but first it was just a toddler bed and crib and now they got bunk beds.

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The kids share a room…

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I wouldn’t purposely plan a child knowing that I might struggle trying to care for it. Definitely not judging you guys and I wish you all the best. Just saying maybe work on bettering your situation before having another kid

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Depending on the state, you will have to check. I think the littles sharing a room would be able to happen until they were 5… at least in IL. Then a boy and girl would need to at that point be separated.

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If you have a bachelors degree why not get a better paying job and save a little to get a better place first. Horse before the cart??

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Have you considered putting an addition on the house

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Bunk beds ,cut room in half with tape or decorations or a short wall.

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Wait get a better job bigger house and private insurance. Your baby is only one I have at least 3 yrs between each of mine.

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It’s called realizing you’re not ready for another and planning and being responsible…too many people on this planet anyway

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My baby is in our bedroom until her first birthday, my teenager has her own room. So we make a 2 bedroom work well for our family of 4.

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In my area, a 3 bed is almost $2,000 or more :sweat: you could probably have the children share a room or you share a room with the new baby for a bit

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You have the baby in your room before 6mths after they share the room.

Perhaps wait until you can get another better paying job if you have a bachelors degree.

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Where are u seeing 850 for a 3bed apartment??? They are like almost 2 grand in sac

Do not have to worry about bedroom issue for several years yet. You can make it work. Sometimes you wait too long and it never works out the way you dreamed

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My 22 month old daughter and 2 month old share a room, since the 2 month old still feeds at night we have a play pen set up in our living room for bum changes so I can turn on lights without disturbing the toddler

That baby can share with you for a bit and then go in with her for a bit. So you won’t need to move just yet. By the time you save and have another one that one will probably be in preschool and if it’s free that’ll save you money right there. Stockpile now if you can. Put gift cards away each time you have extra funds etc.

my husband and i have a three bedroom also. a 6 yr old girl, 5 year old boy and 6mo baby boy. right now the two older kids share and baby has a nursery. when they get older boys will have bunk beds in the larger room.

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