Lately weve been having problems with my 9 year old step son. On Monday he ditched school and end it up at his friends house. His mom got called and had to leave work to go find him. We dont know what to do. I was thinking calling in a cop to come talk to him. Any advice or suggestions?
I would get him into therapy bcuz obviously something is bothering him. Also explain that he is getting old enough to end up in major trouble if he doesn’t stop what he is doing.
Dont waste our taxes on your son. Wrong road. Deal with him. If it continues get help but calling a cop just wastes resources
Embarrass him. Go have someone sit at school in his class with him. Let him know u are watching you are aware. I did with my son and it worked
Counseling, there’s obviously some underlying issues.
Do you know if he’s having any problems at school? Have you spoken to his teachers? Is there any chance he may be getting bullied? Do you know anything about the friend whose house he went to? I would assess the whole situation first. Then maybe you can help to stop the problem. As hard as it may be, try not to be too hard on him until you gather more information and get him to open up about it.
Has he given you any indication of what is bothering him?
In this day and time it is very dangerous for children to not be where they are suppose to be. Skipping school can lead to all types of mischief.
I would be on red alert and find answers.
at nine year old that is on the school. Send him to therapy and beat his ass because aparently the parents have freind syndrome and are not parenting. Evryone of the things he likes should be taken away.
instead of punishing him ttalk to him they is obviously somthing going on.
As a police family please don’t scare him with the threat of police. You don’t want your child to fear the police, you want him comfortable going to the police if needed. If you’re wanting someone of authority to speak to him, maybe a truancy school officer?
Don’t waste an officers time…it’s your job to teach him right from wrong.
When I was around his age I was doing the same thing. For me I realise now it’s because traditional school was not suitable for me. I would get bored with the work and distracted and as a result I’d distract other kids and cause problems. Eventually that lead to skipping school and doing things I shouldn’t be doing at that age.
It might be that the school work is either too much, or too easy for him and that he needs a different approach.
Have you sat down and talked to him about these problems? What does he say? Is this a new issue lately or has he always been a handful? Have all the adults sat down and talked to see if it happens in both homes? Has he ever seen a doctor about any issues? Have you spoken to the school to see how he is doing, or if someone is bullying him ? Who’s the friend? Have you spoken to this friends parents to see WHY he went there?
He needs to open up about what’s going on. Try to figure things out instead of trying to “scare” him for a lesson.
That wont work
Theres an issue and the adults need to figure it out and be a united front.
He obviously does not know the consequences of skipping school. But worse than that is where he ended up, at a friends house?. Was the friend skipping school too?
I think maybe start off at home and see why he’s acting out… don’t threaten a COP against a 9 year old child. Not to mention they have authority to get CPS or DCF involved if they see fit.
Find out what is happening to him. Find out what the hell he is feeling and help him cope. Some adults in his lives screwed things up so they can be happy… but noine bothered to make sure he was ok. Yeah call the coos… that will help hime cooe with his emotions… NOT
I had a cop friend come and scare my son when he was that age he is not afraid of police by any means but knows more now what can happen when you act out and don’t want to do what it is you are supposed to be doing but I would not call 911 or anything cops have better things they could be doing
First and foremost, mom and dad need to come up with a plan, and involve you if the two of you are married. Then it needs to be discussed with child. Follow through on consequences.
I never heard of a 9 yr old skipping school, that is pretty bold behavior
My daughter has done this. There’s nothing wrong With her she just thinks she’s grown and can do w.e she wants. Dad sat in class with her for a full day. We took away everything. She had to be in her room for a month with no tv or any form of entertainment. The girl has learned.