We think my fiances son is being abused by his mother: How can we get full custody?

My fiancee has a five-year-old little boy, and we have a four-month-old little girl together. His son’s mom has been awful towards me ever since we got together. She’s threatened me and harassed me. She blamed me for my father’s death, threatened my life, and told me she hoped I miscarried. At the time, I was living across the country and just recently moved to where my fiancee lives. Long story short, I believe shes abusing her son. My fiancee currently has 50/50 custody with her. We get his son half the week. Almost every time we get him he’s either sick or covered in bruises he can’t explain(I think he’s scared to) and lately he’s been losing a lot of weight… he’s only 28lbs at 5 years old and fits into 3t… our 4-month-old is almost half that, and she was 3lbs at birth. Anytime he comes to us; he’s starving. I make home-cooked meals every night, and every time he eats as fast as possible and always thanks me. It could be the most straightforward meal, and he’ll just go nuts and woof it down like he hasn’t eaten in days. We’ve tried asking him what he eats while he’s at his mom’s and he tells us he doesn’t know. He’s voiced to us before that his aunt(14 yrs old) has hit him before. Not only that, but there has already been a CPS case on his mother for locking him in a room, barely feeding him as an infant, and hitting him previously. My fiancee has been trying for years now to get custody, and ever since I’ve been with him, shes just got worse. Has anyone gone through something similar, and does anyone know how to go about getting full custody in a case like this? We already contacted cps, and they said they couldn’t do anything unless we went to a doctor, and they said he was malnourished… but his mom refuses to give us any of his medical info even with him being sent to us sick all the time. I just don’t know what to do at this point. Also, we’re in California if that helps any

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Document everything. Pictures of bruises. Is he in school or daycare. Take to Dr to show bruises and document neglect.

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Keep track of everything and if your super concerned for his safety, have dad try to get emergency custody

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When you have him take him to the doctor.

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Well… take him to the dr any dr… even the Er if you don’t have his medical info so cps can do something about it…

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Doctors offices are obligated to release info regarding child especially if there is custody that’s 50/50. Father and mother both get same rights. Take him to doctors office yourself. Document everything, keep a journal.

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If dad has 50/50 he has right to take him to a pediatrician that he chooses.

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Take him to your dr & contact school to voice concerns & build a case. Poor child :cry: xx

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I’d take him to his Dr even the ER and explain everything. You can call CPS as well if need be. Make sure you document every time he’s with y’all.

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File for emergency custody asap

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If he has 50/50 custody take the court paper and go to the drs office. Once they see he has joint custody they can speak to him.

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When he has his son. Have him take him to a doctor. And pay out of pocket. You have to have a paper trail. And a lawyer

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Take him to the doctor or ER and report your concerns. Expect CPS to disect your life as well but make sure he’s safe. Talk to the police. Go to the police station and tell them your concerns and ask what you can do. Take photos of the bruises.

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Ask the school for his health card number tell them what’s going on

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Str8 to the doctors office each time. They will contact CPS .

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Like everyone above is saying document everything, and take him to the doctors, preferably his doctor if you know where he goes so they have his history and records. Even if you dont have his insurance card, his doctors office should have it on record.

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Your fiance has 50/50 custody when he comes there your place your husband can take him a Dr. And if they find anything all your husband has to do is go to the Judge in your county tell what you think is happening. He should get him without any problem keeping him that little boy is begging help. Please help him.God Bless Him.

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Do you ever take him to Dr. or hospital when he is sick or bruised? Your husband has 50/50 he has a right to have him treated without consent form mom. This would be a start. At least a documentation of weight and bruising would be done. By all means take pictures of bruises, date and time on them. Date you pick the child up.

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Take him to the ER and report what you just wrote to the Dr. The hospital has to get CPS involved.

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There should be something in the custody paperwork regarding health insurance. Your husband has every right to take out his own policy on his son and get him a valuated by his own doctor of his choosing. We went through almost the exact same thing with my fiance son but he’s older now and we actually now have full custody. You’re going to need an attorney for sure and everything has to be documented

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